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Dale00

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I'm asking what I can do in the future to not make it hard on the parent, or if there's anything that can be done?

"Son, not everybody likes firearms. In fact, some adults don't want to have anything to do with them. You need to ask your parents what they think about firearms. If they don't like firearms then don't make them angry by asking to learn about shooting."
 

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so a bit of back story quick here...

I was loading up a couple of rifles into the truck this morning to go shoot with some friends a surprising and offensive pastime to be sure but I'm just a bad person like that...anyway, as I was loading everything into the back seat a kid from the neighborhood rode up on his bicycle and asked me if those were guns(one of the cases makes it kinda obvious) I told him yes they were for target shooting. He asked if he could look at them, I told him I'd do one better and teach him everything I could about them, but first he'd have to get his mom or dad to come down and talk with me this afternoon or tomorrow. I thought it was a nice offer...

His mom came down this evening and she disagreed quite a bit, not nice things were said which hurt my rather tender feelings...you all know what a sap I am... Anyway after we had our philosophical disagreement she said that I owed her an apology for making her the bad guy while I disagree with well most everything else I did feel bad about that part...

so the question to you parents out there is, in the future (because I'll tell anyone kid or adult that wants to learn more all I can about firearms etc), how can I phrase it so that I don't put the parents in a bad situation?

and do you think I was wrong to begin with?

Thanks
The part in bold is the only fault I find. To a child you promised him the world. I would say if asked if he could look at them is I would have to speak with your parents first to make sure it is ok with them. Other than that awesome. And agreed mother should have been happy that you sought her permission first.
 

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How old is the kiddo? The only reason I ask is because who knows what he actually told his mom. He could have told her you were gonna teach him how to field strip an ar blindfolded for all you know.
 

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take it in steps. Kid asked to sit in the car you offered to let him drive it. If they want to look at the guns, tell them that they will have to go get one of their parents and get their permission first. Then if that goes smoothly offer to give him some instruction on firearms and some time shooting.
You make a really good point I hadn't even looked at it like that I did kinda go over board... if another opportunity arises to do something similar I'll be sure to rein in it a little

The part in bold is the only fault I find. To a child you promised him the world. I would say if asked if he could look at them is I would have to speak with your parents first to make sure it is ok with them. Other than that awesome. And agreed mother should have been happy that you sought her permission first.

yeah... as stated above I think you guys are right and I went overboard with that...

How old is the kiddo? The only reason I ask is because who knows what he actually told his mom. He could have told her you were gonna teach him how to field strip an ar blindfolded for all you know.

14 so...yeah you make an excellent point to... no telling how he might have pitched it to mom...I may be training a militia in my tiny tiny back yard by the time he got done with the retelling...


I do want to say thanks to everyone for the quick responses and good ideas, and I'll be sure to keep my enthusiasm in check next time and just sit down to talk with the parent...maybe it'll turn out better that way.
 

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linstead I'm asking what I can do in the future to not make it hard on the parent, or if there's anything that can be done?
Nothing.

You make a really good point I hadn't even looked at it like that I did kinda go over board... if another opportunity arises to do something similar I'll be sure to rein in it a little... as stated above I think you guys are right and I went overboard with that...
I really can't see anywhere at all that can be construed as going 'overboard'.
It's sad to think that we live in a time where you'd even have to consider speaking to the parent first....but since we apparently do, you did the reasonable and proper thing.
Don't worry yourself any further about it, IMO.
 

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