Reply to Thread

This site may earn a commission from merchant affiliate links, including eBay, Amazon, and others.

Message: <blockquote data-quote="WideLoadTimmy" data-source="post: 2032340" data-attributes="member: 12926">I have been arguing this with some of the people I know for years. Those kids built bombs in their bedrooms! How!? Because their parents respected their privacy? I was told, as a child, that if I wanted privacy, I would get a job and move out on my own. That as long as I lived under my mom's roof, she would come and go as she pleased in HER house. If I closed my door, she assumed I doing something wrong and would burst in, asking what I was up to. If my door was closed by them, it was usually accompanied by the removal of my TV and being told that I was ground to my room and that I was lucky to have that old, messed up, no-remote-having, piece of junk second hand TV. Today's parents and school administration are apathetic and think their job is not to raise children, but herd them. I can't tell you how many times, as a child, my voice fell on deaf ears. Now, there's social networking and the internet is everywhere (Not that I'm blaming that. You'll see my point in a moment). When I was growing up, I could get away from school bullies by going home and, if I said something to my parents, the following would take place:Me - "So-and-so is a bully and he took X from me"Parents - "Why did you let him do that? Stand up for yourself!"Me - "I did and I got beat up." (The next response would vary, depending on which parent I was talking to)Dad - "The next time he does that, do X and I bet he won't do it again."Mom - "Did you tell the teacher?" Me - "Yes, and he hit me again when they weren't looking." Mom - "I'll have a talk with his mother." (I never understood what good that did until I fund out how fierce my mom is.)If all else failed, my parents would raise a stink with the administrators. If I got in trouble, the first thing they asked wasn't "What did they do to you?", it was "What did you do to deserve it?". I was held accountable for what I did and I was given coping skills to help me get through school. I feel that children today aren't given those same skills. That there are too many parents that don't teach and guide their kids. That means that the kids have no place to turn to and now, the bullying can follow them everywhere. They have no place to shelter them and no one to turn to and they feel trapped and lash out. The majority of school shootings are students committing crimes against other students and I firmly believe it's because they have been all but abandoned. Parents need to step up and teach their kids how to cope and make it so those same kids have some place to turn when all else fails. We are all to blame in this. We all have to change. People need to hold themselves to a higher standard. I'm trying to. I want something for myself and I see the only way to get it is to fix that which is broken about me. I don't know what to suggest to make this problem smaller and I don't think I'm in a position where I should if I thought I could, but I know that I see a lot that I think is wrong and I feel I need to voice it. I'm sure I'll catch grief for this but /rant.</blockquote>

Verification