Boring Marriage - Looking for suggestions

[BadgeBunny]

Fuzzy Handcuffs??? ....

Nah, I am kinda fond of the real deal ...

Hey!! Did you know that they have some pink S&W handcuffs at H&H?? Those are tempting ... you know, just for a change of pace ...

 

[vvvvvvv]

Nah, I am kinda fond of the real deal ...

Hey!! Did you know that they have some pink S&W handcuffs at H&H?? Those are tempting ... you know, just for a change of pace ...

Yep. I know a cop who used to carry them in case she needed them on a domestic violence call.

 

[Perrone]

I will take a little bit different slant on this. I agree with everyone else that you all need to talk and communicate and all of that. I would suggest calling up some of her friends/family and planning a "girls night out". I see a lot of newly married couples that feel they have to spend every waking minute together or something is wrong..."What she wants to go out with his/her friends instead of me? She doesn't love me anymore." I have seen it once I have seen it a million times.

How about YOU keep the kid one night and let her go do something WITHOUT you. It is healthy and ok for two married people to spend time apart have friends and events that do not involve the significant other. It might make you both realize the time spent together is all that much more important.

This would be much easier if she had any friends. We moved down here in Jan and she has no job and really doesn't leave the house much unless it's with me. She's been trying to find friends and make friends with some neighbors, but it just never works out. That's part of her problem is that she has no friends.

We had a nice long talk last night without anyone getting mad or loud. There are some obvious issues we both need to work on, but I know we can do it. Oh and she turned 21 today

 

[Dr. Tad Hussein Winslow]

Christie's Toy Box

 

[tm8634]

just have more kids that will keep you busy and you will love your idle time (if you ever get any)...

 

[vvvvvvv]

This would be much easier if she had any friends. We moved down here in Jan and she has no job and really doesn't leave the house much unless it's with me. She's been trying to find friends and make friends with some neighbors, but it just never works out. That's part of her problem is that she has no friends.

We had a nice long talk last night without anyone getting mad or loud. There are some obvious issues we both need to work on, but I know we can do it. Oh and she turned 21 today

Bars and clubs can be an alright place to make new friends.

Plus, you both can show off your dance moves to each other.

 

[Perrone]

Bars and clubs can be an alright place to make new friends.

Plus, you both can show off your dance moves to each other.

Hahaha. I can't dance and she's too self-conscious to dance in public

 

[vvvvvvv]

Hahaha. I can't dance and she's too self-conscious to dance in public

You know, I said the same thing, too. "There's a reason why I was a DJ through high school."

So my wife got me to go to the bar for a few drinks. After a few drinks, I was relaxed enough to make a fool of myself with everyone else.

 

[Talacker]

This would be much easier if she had any friends. We moved down here in Jan and she has no job and really doesn't leave the house much unless it's with me. She's been trying to find friends and make friends with some neighbors, but it just never works out. That's part of her problem is that she has no friends.

We had a nice long talk last night without anyone getting mad or loud. There are some obvious issues we both need to work on, but I know we can do it. Oh and she turned 21 today

I suspect that this contributes a great deal to your problems. I can speak from experience that when mom spends all day with kids without adult interaction, she can go CRAZY. I would suggest she get involved in local moms clubs/MOPS club. It will give her some support and other moms to network with and friends. I can also vouch for getting some "couple" friends of your same life stage. If you're religious or even if you're not, dive into a church and get involved with a young couple class even if you skip the church service if that's not your thing. Great place to meet others in your same boat.

Remember you're not superman and can't fix every problem. Hovering over her with fawning attentiveness isn't what she wants from you. Give her some space and the opportunities to solve your issues together.

 

[grizzly97]

LOL ... I dated this guy for a while who would always ask me "Do you want to do a or b??" So I would pick one and off we would go. Then I realized that we were ALWAYS doing what he wanted to do ... seriously ... LOL

So ... the next time he asked me I said "I wanna do c". OMG he was AGHAST ... He never asked me if I wanted to do a or b again. In fact, he never called again. Good thing I was just killing time and not attached to him!! LOL I might have got my feelers hurt!! haha!

Good thing you were just killing time. That guy is what i like to call a boy, not man. Relationships require this little thing called compramise. lol. Not only that, but if you like someone, or love, you should be interested in doing what they like to do.