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<blockquote data-quote="BadgeBunny" data-source="post: 1310864" data-attributes="member: 1242"><img src="/images/smilies/new/blush2.gif"&nbsp; class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":blush:" title="Blush2&nbsp; &nbsp; :blush:" data-shortname=":blush:" /> You youngsters ... us old folks just sigh and say to ourselves &quot;it&#039;ll pass&quot; ... and it does ... takes way too much energy to hold a grudge at our ages ... <img src="/images/smilies/redface.png"&nbsp; class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":o" title="Embarrassment&nbsp; &nbsp; :o" data-shortname=":o" />In all seriousness though a couple of things stand out ...One, if they BOTH don&#039;t want it to work then no amount of effort on his part is gonna fix anything andTwo, marriage is not an even-steven deal ... One party is always having to put more effort in that the other. That is just the way it is. In a good marriage that is a fluid equation, but what is &quot;good&quot; is also very subjective.In the end, people are a pain in the ass to live with (whether men or women). You find someone who can tolerate and live with your level of pychosis and hope that you can find a way to deal with their personal demons. Then you count your blessings and just move on ...ETA: The single most important sentence in the entire world is a heartfelt &quot;I&#039;m sorry&quot;.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BadgeBunny, post: 1310864, member: 1242"] :blush: You youngsters ... us old folks just sigh and say to ourselves "it'll pass" ... and it does ... takes way too much energy to hold a grudge at our ages ... :o In all seriousness though a couple of things stand out ... One, if they BOTH don't want it to work then no amount of effort on his part is gonna fix anything and Two, marriage is not an even-steven deal ... One party is always having to put more effort in that the other. That is just the way it is. In a good marriage that is a fluid equation, but what is "good" is also very subjective. In the end, people are a pain in the ass to live with (whether men or women). You find someone who can tolerate and live with your level of pychosis and hope that you can find a way to deal with their personal demons. Then you count your blessings and just move on ... ETA: The single most important sentence in the entire world is a heartfelt "I'm sorry". [/QUOTE]

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