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<blockquote data-quote="TwoShoots" data-source="post: 4271209" data-attributes="member: 56265">Do they know them? We&#039;re a big, open family so we talk about everything. Yes, they know what sacrifices I&#039;ve made. I *try* to tell them what I&#039;m doing, and WHY, because without the why it&#039;s all just hot air. Do they appreciate it? Sometimes. I think they&#039;re not supposed to appreciate it just yet. They&#039;re just supposed to accept and know the facts behind it, then once they&#039;re out they&#039;ll think back on these times of me being gone or putting them through trials and extra classes so they can get a jump start on life, and hopefully think &quot;Sure am glad my dad did that&quot;. My oldest appreciates me and has said as much. She&#039;s off in college now and has the world by the tail. My youngest is just now getting in middle school, and my middle is learning to drive. The bottom two aren&#039;t as appreciative now, more of a &quot;can I do ____? Awww dang it&quot; kind of attitude. And if they&#039;re asked to do anything it&#039;s always &quot;ugh&quot;, but that&#039;s how kids are. You live with it, correct it when it&#039;s too much, and hope to raise good adults. Once they&#039;re adults, THEN you see what you made. Are they over 20? Ok, how&#039;d they turn out? That&#039;s when you judge them.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="TwoShoots, post: 4271209, member: 56265"] Do they know them? We're a big, open family so we talk about everything. Yes, they know what sacrifices I've made. I *try* to tell them what I'm doing, and WHY, because without the why it's all just hot air. Do they appreciate it? Sometimes. I think they're not supposed to appreciate it just yet. They're just supposed to accept and know the facts behind it, then once they're out they'll think back on these times of me being gone or putting them through trials and extra classes so they can get a jump start on life, and hopefully think "Sure am glad my dad did that". My oldest appreciates me and has said as much. She's off in college now and has the world by the tail. My youngest is just now getting in middle school, and my middle is learning to drive. The bottom two aren't as appreciative now, more of a "can I do ____? Awww dang it" kind of attitude. And if they're asked to do anything it's always "ugh", but that's how kids are. You live with it, correct it when it's too much, and hope to raise good adults. Once they're adults, THEN you see what you made. Are they over 20? Ok, how'd they turn out? That's when you judge them. [/QUOTE]

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