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<blockquote data-quote="Gunrunner45" data-source="post: 1460536" data-attributes="member: 12488">nofearfactor,I grew up similar to you, except it was a single Mom who raised me.&nbsp; Same story no structure and very few rules, I came &amp; went as I pleased.With that said I beat the odds.&nbsp; Many of my so called friends of the time did not.&nbsp; Most are either dead or have done jail time.&nbsp; What saved me was the military.With that said, kids have plenty of &quot;friends&quot;.&nbsp; What they need from you is a father.&nbsp; Sometimes that means your not the good guy.&nbsp; As parents we know that what our kids want &amp; what is in their best interest is 2 very different things.Set limits and stick to them.&nbsp; Be consistent.&nbsp; Before he ever left he should have known when he was suppose to be home and what the consequences would be if he was late.&nbsp; Then stick to it.I probably would not have let my 14 year old find his own transportation.&nbsp; I might have allowed him to go with his friends but he would have been dropped off &amp; pickup by an adult.Just my .02</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Gunrunner45, post: 1460536, member: 12488"] nofearfactor, I grew up similar to you, except it was a single Mom who raised me. Same story no structure and very few rules, I came & went as I pleased. With that said I beat the odds. Many of my so called friends of the time did not. Most are either dead or have done jail time. What saved me was the military. With that said, kids have plenty of "friends". What they need from you is a father. Sometimes that means your not the good guy. As parents we know that what our kids want & what is in their best interest is 2 very different things. Set limits and stick to them. Be consistent. Before he ever left he should have known when he was suppose to be home and what the consequences would be if he was late. Then stick to it. I probably would not have let my 14 year old find his own transportation. I might have allowed him to go with his friends but he would have been dropped off & pickup by an adult. Just my .02 [/QUOTE]

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