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Message: <blockquote data-quote="cowboydoc" data-source="post: 1460763" data-attributes="member: 8065">I have a 12 year old son, so what you are going through is just around the corner for me.  No excuse for not texting or a quick call to let you know what was going on.  Even if he doesn't have a cell phone, or it wasn't charged, or it fell in the toilet, whatever - that many teenagers together somebody has a cell phone that is working.Teenagers will test and push the limits.  You weren't clear in your post what time he was expected home, but obviously 4am is way past reasonable.  If there are not consequences then he just learned what he can get away with.  If this was a first offense and he is otherwise a good kid maybe just a sit down and explain clearly that this is not acceptable and what your expectations are (call or text after concert, time expected home, etc).  If this is a progression of a pattern then something more serious may be in order.  Do not keep your wife in the dark on this.  She will find out eventually, best if it comes from you or even better your son.  If you handle it - explain to her what happened and what you are doing to keep it from happening again - then she will be more likely to trust you.  If you keep it from here, again she will find out eventually, then you have just lost her trust.  You and your wife need to be united on discipline or kids will use it against you.I know what I was like at 14 and what my parents were like.  If I had pulled something like that there would have been hell to pay.</blockquote>

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