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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Fyrtwuck" data-source="post: 3903234" data-attributes="member: 23">I was the son of an alcoholic and abusive father. My mother and I suffered numerous beatings before she finally had the courage to leave him. He was career military starting with the Army Air Force during WW2 and retiring shortly after Vietnam. The only reason he'd give for his drinking was his time in England in WW2. At first I believed combat may have been the cause, but as I grew older, I discovered that he was an aircraft mechanic and the closest he ever got to combat was the flight line or the hanger. He had a routine. He'd go to the base, come home, throw his uniform in the corner, change and out the door to the bar till it closed. My mother picked up on a  pattern and she knew the signs to be elsewhere when he came back. We spent many nights at drive in triple features or sleeping in the car at a rest area. We'd pay for our absence later when he'd remember we weren't home when he stumbled in drunk. There were always accusations of my mother seeing someone else. It wasn't true because I was always there with her. He never believed me either and I was punished for lying and defending her. He died in 1993 and I never shed a tear at his funeral. I learned from his example and never had any interest in drinking. During my career at the FD, I've had to cut the hurt and deceased drunks and their victims from their cars and I always asked myself why? What brought them to this point in their life?Those are my experiences. I have none for counseling or therapy, but just my opinion, look for the cause. I wish you well and hope you succeed in your recovery.</blockquote>

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