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<blockquote data-quote="TwoShoots" data-source="post: 4328206" data-attributes="member: 56265">People do that. That&#039;s an extreme situation. If you&#039;re stuck and unable to do things then you generally call up people you know (family, or close friends) to give you a *temporary* hand, or pay someone for help. There&#039;s a difference in that situation and &quot;men be sufferin in silenseeee!&quot;. If you think someone needs help, offer it. If they don&#039;t accept, leave them alone. I&#039;ve had a spouse die. I had people (mostly women) trying to horn in and help constantly for about a year. I didn&#039;t need help, I needed to get kids delivered to places and get dinner on the table and hopefully have a little time at the end of the day for SILENCE where no one is expecting anything from me and I can be alone and plan solutions. This is the way. Not saying I didn&#039;t eat TF out of those casseroles, got some good recipes too. But the ones that just kept dropping by or bugging with &quot;are you ok?&quot; were the ones I really just wanted to block and ignore for a few months. Good friends, but they couldn&#039;t take a hint. Sometimes you just need to circle the wagons and deal with things. Or you just want to sit and watch a game without someone trying to get you to cry because that might make them feel better (again, women). You can F right off with that. I got things to do.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="TwoShoots, post: 4328206, member: 56265"] People do that. That's an extreme situation. If you're stuck and unable to do things then you generally call up people you know (family, or close friends) to give you a *temporary* hand, or pay someone for help. There's a difference in that situation and "men be sufferin in silenseeee!". If you think someone needs help, offer it. If they don't accept, leave them alone. I've had a spouse die. I had people (mostly women) trying to horn in and help constantly for about a year. I didn't need help, I needed to get kids delivered to places and get dinner on the table and hopefully have a little time at the end of the day for SILENCE where no one is expecting anything from me and I can be alone and plan solutions. This is the way. Not saying I didn't eat TF out of those casseroles, got some good recipes too. But the ones that just kept dropping by or bugging with "are you ok?" were the ones I really just wanted to block and ignore for a few months. Good friends, but they couldn't take a hint. Sometimes you just need to circle the wagons and deal with things. Or you just want to sit and watch a game without someone trying to get you to cry because that might make them feel better (again, women). You can F right off with that. I got things to do. [/QUOTE]

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