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<blockquote data-quote="tRidiot" data-source="post: 3405577" data-attributes="member: 9374"><p>I agree... I advocate you surround yourself with people who enrich your life. And people who frustrate you or drag you down, you can cut out.</p><p></p><p>I don't give 2 schitts about 'blood'. Just because we were born into the same family, directly (as in the case of my brother whom I haven't talked to in... I dunno... 15-17 years?) or indirectly, those people have no hold or sway over you. If they try to hold 'blood' over your head, they are using you. Period. They want you in their life for some reason - maybe they want financial help, maybe they want someone else to commiserate with, or maybe they just get off on the drama, who knows? But if they drag you down, you're not required to give them a toehold in your life, in my opinion. Life is too short to spend it trying to change other people, OR to spend trying to make other people happy.</p><p></p><p>I don't advocate treating other people badly, don't get me wrong - but some people have given up the right to demand or even ASK anything of me. I don't want or need that. I've significantly cut down on my relationship with my mother because she is all about drama, she won't let go of past hurts in her life and she continues to make the same mistakes she always has - and then wants to whine about them. I don't play the game, and I don't participate. She tries to pick fights, she tries to be a martyr, etc. I just walk away. If she wants to come over and have a good time and have dinner, hang out with her grandchild, etc., that's fine. If she wants to whine and complain, I get up and go to my room. She's gotten the hint for the most part. With my brother, well, we just had a falling out when I was young, I made a couple of overtures to try to repair the relationship in my 20s, he never seemed to want to, so I moved on. I'm not missing out on anything by not having him in my life - we just don't have ANYTHING really in common, so why would I want to force a relationship with someone I don't care for and who doesn't care for me, when the only thing we have in common is other relatives? </p><p></p><p>Anyways, that's my treatise.</p><p></p><p>Don't let others control you or dictate your life. Live simply and generously, but don't put up with BS, either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tRidiot, post: 3405577, member: 9374"] I agree... I advocate you surround yourself with people who enrich your life. And people who frustrate you or drag you down, you can cut out. I don't give 2 schitts about 'blood'. Just because we were born into the same family, directly (as in the case of my brother whom I haven't talked to in... I dunno... 15-17 years?) or indirectly, those people have no hold or sway over you. If they try to hold 'blood' over your head, they are using you. Period. They want you in their life for some reason - maybe they want financial help, maybe they want someone else to commiserate with, or maybe they just get off on the drama, who knows? But if they drag you down, you're not required to give them a toehold in your life, in my opinion. Life is too short to spend it trying to change other people, OR to spend trying to make other people happy. I don't advocate treating other people badly, don't get me wrong - but some people have given up the right to demand or even ASK anything of me. I don't want or need that. I've significantly cut down on my relationship with my mother because she is all about drama, she won't let go of past hurts in her life and she continues to make the same mistakes she always has - and then wants to whine about them. I don't play the game, and I don't participate. She tries to pick fights, she tries to be a martyr, etc. I just walk away. If she wants to come over and have a good time and have dinner, hang out with her grandchild, etc., that's fine. If she wants to whine and complain, I get up and go to my room. She's gotten the hint for the most part. With my brother, well, we just had a falling out when I was young, I made a couple of overtures to try to repair the relationship in my 20s, he never seemed to want to, so I moved on. I'm not missing out on anything by not having him in my life - we just don't have ANYTHING really in common, so why would I want to force a relationship with someone I don't care for and who doesn't care for me, when the only thing we have in common is other relatives? Anyways, that's my treatise. Don't let others control you or dictate your life. Live simply and generously, but don't put up with BS, either. [/QUOTE]
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