If I come to your house, and bring you a bottle of wine, I have given you a gift. If you throw it away because you aren't fond of Merlot, I still have given you a gift.
Would you then kill me or torture me forever if you found out I tossed your wonderful wine? Kidding of course.
And still, it falls back on me. Yet scripture says it's not of ourselves. This is a pretty simple concept, really. Fundamental Christianity has made it sooooo confusing!