I really appreciate the advice on focusing. It just seems like the Pro is so big it's making me lose focus on the target . I will keep practicing and apply your way of doing it. The trijicon rmr is a whole lot smaller and it may be easier for me to use and they have models with big old dots that I could put on target and should cover my shot pattern pretty good.I've never been a fan of Eotechs - I love the reticle, but have seen dozens go down in classes. The payout they were forced to make to .gov was the final nail in the coffin for me.
I have six T2's and one T1 on various rifles (with the T1 being on a shotgun), and have never had a problem with any of them.
I know some folks who run Trijicon RMR's on shotguns, and love them, so might want to give those a look.
Finally, not sure how much experience you have with dots, but you should not be looking through the Aimpoint - you should have both eyes open, focused on the target, which should leave you with an in-focus target with a red dot floating over it. I actually don't see the optic when shooting.