I have tried to explain the importance of home protection to my wife. After we talk and I think she understands then we go get a gun that she feels comfortable with.... then "it happens" she won't learn how to load/clean/operate/shoot with her new gun. I have gone through a 20g shotgun, a 9mm carbine, several handguns. I am at my wits end. we have a daughter who is going on 2 years old and I NEED to know that my wife will defend our daughter and herself IF anything were to happen while I'm at work ... any advise would be great.