Don't you just love hard situations.

[DanB]

Ever since my wife and I have lost our baby several weeks back we have been trying to get pregnant. In that time we have found out that 2 of the couples we know from church are expecting babies.

For me its a bit irritating but beyond that not much of an issue. I know God will provide when he wants us to have another baby.

For my wife its an emotional sledge hammer to her heart everytime she gets this kind of news. Being the man that most of us are we want to be able to "fix" the situation to make the hurting of our wife stop. Unfortunately in this situation we just can't fix it.

last night I walked in from the garage and found my wife in a depressed state. She had been checking Facebook and found yet another couple we know is expecting a baby in June.

I'm praying that God will comfort my wife and give her peace of mind knowing our time will come on his schedule not ours. The emotional rollercoaster is not a fun ride to be on.

 

[NikatKimber]

Ever since my wife and I have lost our baby several weeks back we have been trying to get pregnant. In that time we have found out that 2 of the couples we know from church are expecting babies.

For me its a bit irritating but beyond that not much of an issue. I know God will provide when he wants us to have another baby.

For my wife its an emotional sledge hammer to her heart everytime she gets this kind of news. Being the man that most of us are we want to be able to "fix" the situation to make the hurting of our wife stop. Unfortunately in this situation we just can't fix it.

last night I walked in from the garage and found my wife in a depressed state. She had been checking Facebook and found yet another couple we know is expecting a baby in June.

I'm praying that God will comfort my wife and give her peace of mind knowing our time will come on his schedule not ours. The emotional rollercoaster is not a fun ride to be on.

I feel for you. We haven't lost one, but we're on the other part of that roller coaster ourselves.

 

[radiant_shooter]

Hang in there man. I know it is tough. My wife and I lost our first baby and it was heart wrenching. My wife had an extremely tough time with it. I know how you feel about not being able to fix it. God has everything in control and has a reason for everything. We kept trying to think through all the reasons why it would happen, but you just never know. Maybe the baby would have been born sick or with a disease that would have caused even more heartache down the road. Just keep your chin up and know that you have people praying for you.

 

[JRSherman]

I can honestly say I know exactly how you're feeling. My wife and I have been trying for 6 years, give or take. We've been through all the tests, nothing is supposedly wrong, but it just hasn't happened.

Every time we turn around, a friend or family member is going to have a kid. Included are one of my cousins, who had a kid her senior year, and one of my wifes cousins, who is in her senior year now and is pregnant.

I know that most people consider it, for some reason, to be a stupid and immoral way to be, but to me, keeping a bloodline alive is the most important part of having a child. I didn't(and don't) know my real dad, and was mostly raised by my grandfather, so I changed my name to my mothers maiden name a few years back. Now, I am the last boy in the entire Sherman side of my family.

So it is making it really hard for me to do it, but I am giving in to my wife, and we're probably just going to adopt. I honestly don't want to, but I just don't feel the same way I used to about trying. I literally feel like we're the couple in "Couples Retreat" sometimes, because of how much we've tried and failed.

We've tried everything but IVF, and we're just too financially leery of going that far. I had a buddy in the service that dropped $10k on it, and it didn't work. He went overseas, came back, and had a kid almost immediately, and has another now.

The other big problem my wife has is finding friends to hang out with that don't have kids. Seems like, too, every time she makes friends with someone, they wind up pregnant, and that's a real PITA. You want to be happy, but you can't. . .

Just hang in there man, and know that there are many, many couples that do, in fact, have the same troubles as you guys do. If your wife is on FB, I could have my wife friend her so she has someone to talk to about it as well. My wife has finally gotten over the depression bits, and has moved on to the "What are our other options" stage.

Take care!