6yr old grandson suspended from school

[XYZ]

It’s been a damn long time ago but I remember getting expelled a couple times when I was a kid (knowing there was probably a lot more than a couple) for doing dumb stuff.

First time was really early in my educational career like preschool or 1st grade. Man I hated having to sit at home instead of having fun at school.

The other time I remember was I think junior high. My dad worked my butt off those couple days.
I never misbehaved in that teacher’s presence ever again.

 

[Camo]

I talked back ONCE.

Too many parent are afraid to enforce real discipline. IMO, she needs to address this harshly and stick to any punishment she lays down without falter. I probably swatted my kids 5 times growing up but when I did I made sure to make an impression. Once I laid out a grounding I enforced it completely. I refused to give altimatuns “don’t do. X or I’ll do Y. I said don’t go X and that was it. They knew what would happen if they disobeyed.

 

[OkieMoe]

Pulled out a bic lighter he brought from home and showing off to other kids and set fire to some leaves on the playground. Miniature burn nothing damaged BUT School was not amused and zero toleranced him.
My daughter is on the verge of mommacide with her boys. She had just busted her 12yr old and the 6 yr old both for building a campfire in a firepit at a friend's yard without permission last week. She explained fire ban conditions and the need for permission. Lots of disrespectful back talk and failure to do as told on house manners has been a problem of late. She said if she started hitting them she might lose her cool so she has avoided spanking. She is a great boy's mom but their hooligan attitude has her bent.
I told her to confiscate their BB guns and tell them I saiď being stupid with fire means no guns to have fun with.
She asked me what else. I will be there next week and I will take him to the fire station and let the firemen tell him just how serious it is. I did that with my daughters over candle safety issues in their room when they were young. Scared them good. No more careless candles.
I have had to debride a burned kid who had playing with gas when I worked at St Francis. Burned kids is the worst.
I burned the seat cover of my mom's 1958 Chevy with a magnefying glass out of crackerjax. She was madder than hell and beat me and both of my brother's butts in the grocery store parking lot to make sure it never happened again. No wonder my brothers dont like me...

I have kids ranging 40 to 14 and its a A LOT harder now than it was 40 years ago. My 14 and 15yo's at home are mostly well mannered young men. my 15yo is lightly on the spectrum with Asperger's but he and we manage as well as we can. Thankfully all of my 5 bio 2 step kids have productive normal lives. Showing them what can happen IF it gets away from them might be the best to flip that OMG switch.

 

[Thatoneokieguy]

Hate to say it but this is what happens when we demonize certain kinds of punishment and resort to finger shaking. I'm 41 and when I messed up as a kid, my parents passed me around like a poorly rolled joint whooping on me until they made their point. To this day, I've never sat in the back of a cop car. My wife and I have a 6 year old and a 1 year old. The 1 year old is still learning the ropes because well, he's 1. The 6 year old we've had to paddle numerous times in the past. We got got nailed down to the "pre paddle mom and dad look" now so she pretty much knows the boundaries of right and wrong. She's a good kid. I've had 2 older women get into me and my wifes business about disciplining our daughter, both at Walmart (imagine that). Two sentences was enough to straighten their eyesight and continue them along their way. Different times don't have to lead to different types of situations. Dont ever lay a hand on a child out of anger, just keep your cool and let them know who runs the show.

 

[elwoodtrix]

time to quit smoking

 

[XYZ]

 

[dennishoddy]

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I think this works with firearms and knives also. Kill the curiosity and teach them legitimate skills.

It did work. When they were young, we did a ton of fishing, always catching the occasional carp. I'd hang it from a tree and shoot it with the .44 mag.
Seeing is believing. Then we had the talk about how TV gunshot victims in movies with just a little red spot on the shirt wasn't reality.
The shredded carp was proof, and they got to see pics of real gunshot victims.

 

[Hooper]

It did work. When they were young, we did a ton of fishing, always catching the occasional carp. I'd hang it from a tree and shoot it with the .44 mag.
Seeing is believing. Then we had the talk about how TV gunshot victims in movies with just a little red spot on the shirt wasn't reality.
The shredded carp was proof, and they got to see pics of real gunshot victims.

Yes sir,
best time to teach a kid is when they are young, before they are filled with lies from public education etc.

Teach them young they will never forget. Tell them the truth. Trying to lie and deceive them will only make them confused along their journey in life.

Also Protect them at all cost, remember kids are gifts from God.
How we raise them is the most important thing we do in life.

If you teach them it is fun to work for what they get, they will also grow up to support themselves with very little help.

For the lighter at school deal, that is just proof that the public education system is failing society, He should have got a Lick or two and shown the proper way to handle a lighter with a pack a smokes and to not get caught by the teacher.
Last part might be a joke, but it did happen in the 60-70's when I went to school, and we walked uphill both ways to school, in the snow most of the time.
Take it with a grain of salt.

Let your kid know how silly it is that they sent him home from school for a lighter.
Hard to do, cause he also needs to be able to function in a school that is letting kids down with wishy washy so called discipline that does not know the difference between men and women.

I still enjoy our fewer freedoms and liberties, but they are fading, our kids need leadership and help like never before.

I hope Good People do not sit by and remain silent.
If you do decide to stand against them, Go in pairs or more, do not go alone. Parents need to form small groups, and stick together. I know a lot of Teachers out there who would dearly Love a group of Parents helping to stand against the crap coming down the pipe.

 

[BillM]

When i did stuff like that I got whooped pretty good. Glad I did too because could have hurt someone the things we tried to do. It's the kinda stuff boys do until they get disciplined. Probably need to be more strict with them all around. Might not be fun but will save trouble.

I got away with it. Actually tried to burn the school down. And failed miserably. 1st grade? Mom was a smoker, so was the babysitters husband, so matches were easy to come by. A few years later I set my hand on fire. Was using lighter fluid in the alcohol lamp for my chemistry set. Refilled it while it was still hot, and had managed to dump lighter fluid all over my hand, which lit up when I lit the lamp. Taught me to be much more careful with fire. Still a pyromaniac.

 

[OKRuss]

Hate to say it but this is what happens when we demonize certain kinds of punishment and resort to finger shaking. I'm 41 and when I messed up as a kid, my parents passed me around like a poorly rolled joint whooping on me until they made their point. To this day, I've never sat in the back of a cop car. My wife and I have a 6 year old and a 1 year old. The 1 year old is still learning the ropes because well, he's 1. The 6 year old we've had to paddle numerous times in the past. We got got nailed down to the "pre paddle mom and dad look" now so she pretty much knows the boundaries of right and wrong. She's a good kid. I've had 2 older women get into me and my wifes business about disciplining our daughter, both at Walmart (imagine that). Two sentences was enough to straighten their eyesight and continue them along their way. Different times don't have to lead to different types of situations. Dont ever lay a hand on a child out of anger, just keep your cool and let them know who runs the show.

Did you ever figure out why they'd lick their finger then wipe on your head before passing you back to the other parent?