Dating Single Moms

[Annie]

Seriously?!?!?! DAMN, your hubbys ex musta bin a BIG *****!!!!!!

Oh honey ... That's NOTHING! Lol She called here one night at 11 or midnight. Some insane hour. I'd worked a whole day at the law office, gone straight to JCP at 5 and worked until 10:30, come home with a HORRID headache and had JUST dosed off when she rang. First words I heard were "Is this Old Man's slut?"

"Why, yes, yes it is. What can I do for you??"

Things kinda spiraled out of control from there and SHE wound up slamming the phone down on me. She'd said something during the conversation that led me to believe she was at the old man's apartment, so I got up, got dressed and drove over there fully prepared to choke the life outta her worthless fat ass (and I'M a fat ass, so that's saying something). She was gone by the time I got there.

Old man asked me if I was there to break up with him. I said "**** NO! But if I'm gonna have to put up with this ****, you ought to at least pay half my bills, don't ya think?"

I took 2 days of vacation, moved everything out of his apartment to my house and when she went to the apartment to drop the kids off on Friday it was empty. (His schedule had changed by then.) Haha!

 

[3inSlugger]

When I was single; I went out with a gal who had a Child.

Halfway through the date I thought "She is great but why on Earth would I intentionally date women with kids when there are women I can date with no kids"?

Couldn't figure out a good reason so I never did it again.

Always thought the same thing, but because she has similar likes, approach to life, and taste. Something about her personality too, I honestly don't understand it...

 

[TerryMiller]

For what it is worth, I can't answer to the single mom aspect, but after 48 1/2 years of marriage, I might have a few comments.

Don't rush marriage, so that you really have time to get to know the lady, and she gets to know you.
Don't rush sex as that can lead to another set of problems, besides, the lady might prefer that you like her personality and not just her looks.

When you think you are serious enough to perhaps go with marriage, ask yourself these questions:

Would you feel you needed a prenuptial agreement? If you answer yes, then move on and don't marry. If you don't trust her emphatically (and she trust you) then don't marry.
Are you of the mind that "if it doesn't work out, we can divorce," then don't marry. You aren't committed.

Advice I've given young people before is to absolutely totally commit themselves to their future spouse before the question is even asked. If unable to commit, don't do it.
Keep in mind that whomever one marries likely may not change to meet one's requirements, so be prepared to accept them as they are.

Good luck.

 

[3inSlugger]

Hey, at least you know she puts out!

Seriously all my experience has been positive dating single mothers. I have met a wacko or two but also met married wacko women, wacko men, etc, etc, etc. If you like her, take a chance.

At least once lol.

 

[3inSlugger]

For what it is worth, I can't answer to the single mom aspect, but after 48 1/2 years of marriage, I might have a few comments.

Don't rush marriage, so that you really have time to get to know the lady, and she gets to know you.
Don't rush sex as that can lead to another set of problems, besides, the lady might prefer that you like her personality and not just her looks.

When you think you are serious enough to perhaps go with marriage, ask yourself these questions:

Would you feel you needed a prenuptial agreement? If you answer yes, then move on and don't marry. If you don't trust her emphatically (and she trust you) then don't marry.
Are you of the mind that "if it doesn't work out, we can divorce," then don't marry. You aren't committed.

Advice I've given young people before is to absolutely totally commit themselves to their future spouse before the question is even asked. If unable to commit, don't do it.
Keep in mind that whomever one marries likely may not change to meet one's requirements, so be prepared to accept them as they are.

Good luck.

Was married for 5 years. Divorced in july of last year. Marriage is a long way off for me now. And I agree with everything that you just said due to my previous experience.

 

[Annie]

I can go on all night like this. AND that's just with stories about HER -- then there was her sister and her mom ... by the time I got done with all of them they wouldn't even make eye contact with me. BWAHAHAHAHA!!

 

[Annie]

And I would emphatically state that you never really know someone until you are married to them.

 

[Rooster1971]

Hmmmm ... I was a single mom with 3 boys, one out of the house and 2 in high school when the old man and I married. My oldest son made him the grandfather of triplets less than a year after we married. My ex- had been out if the picture since before the birth of my 3rd son, so no issues there. I had been single 12 years when we met.

His 2 kids were JUST starting grade school and his ex- and her family did everything they could think of to make my life a living hell.

We both have so much baggage between us a freight train couldn't carry it all. We've been together almost 20 years now. Our biggest problem always has been, and continues to be, the fact that I NEED my alone time. I could be a hermit so easily. The old man says if I go first he's hiring a maid. I say if he goes first I'm just gonna enjoy the peace and quiet.

Sounds like grrest pportunity to work on that Mopar

 

[MacFromOK]

And I would emphatically state that you never really know someone until you are married to them.

And I'd say you proved the points in my post...

 

[Annie]

And I'd say you proved the points in my post...

Except for she VASTLY underestimated the enemy. You don't have to be smarter than the ex- ... just more stubborn -- and meaner ... lol

I have to admit I had excellent training. I'd been dealing with a professional psycho my whole life (thanks, Mom!). The old man's ex- and her family were used to bullying people into giving them what they wanted. I'm more of a "take no prisoners" kinda gal. Those ladies, and I use the term "ladies" VERY VERY loosely never really stood a chance.