tl/dr
The problem isn't "feminism". The problem is subjugation of the rule of law to multiculturalism. You either have a strong cultural system that doesn't lower its expectations based on category, or you don't. The entire western civilization is attempting to embrace multiculturalism, and the results are as predictable as they are maddening.
There are probably multiple interrelated factors in play. Perhaps one or more are root causes or perhaps they are all swarming dragons chasing each other's tails. Either way we are in trouble.