Is no-fault divorce a good thing?

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What about business contracts? Also a plan to fail?
There is some similarity but marriage is a closer relationship of mutual trust and emotions. A business contract is typically a business agreement. You’ve presented a difficult comparison and if it is answered, it will be an interesting discussion.
 

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I've been saying that for years. Commitment and trust is needed to build a good relationship and marriage, and a prenup indicates that neither party has the trust, thus probably not the commitment as well.
I disagree with this. To me, a prenup is a mature way to go into things. You are acknowledging the statistics that surround marriage and protecting either party in the event that they become one of the less favorable statistics. Yes, you should go into the relationship based on your heart, but knowing that if the relationship ends it will be treated like a business, then it's best to protect that business from the beginning.

Or, better yet, stop with all the marriage crap to begin with. I've never seen the necessity for the formality that is marriage. My commitment to my wife didn't change one bit by getting married. All it did was cost me money for an event that my wife and I were so busy during that we barely remember any of it.
 

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I disagree with this. To me, a prenup is a mature way to go into things. You are acknowledging the statistics that surround marriage and protecting either party in the event that they become one of the less favorable statistics. Yes, you should go into the relationship based on your heart, but knowing that if the relationship ends it will be treated like a business, then it's best to protect that business from the beginning.

Or, better yet, stop with all the marriage crap to begin with. I've never seen the necessity for the formality that is marriage. My commitment to my wife didn't change one bit by getting married. All it did was cost me money for an event that my wife and I were so busy during that we barely remember any of it.

Perhaps that works for you. In my case, my parents got divorced after I got out on my own and got married at 22. The wife's parents stayed married until death parted them. I also had the opinion that I was going to be committed to one wife for life, and I also believed that regardless of whatever, she was going to be a full partner in what the two of us did in life, so she would be entitled to half if we divorced.

We only got "reasonably" close on one occasion and that was when I had a truck driving job that kept me away from home for weeks at a time. Rightfully, I shouldn't have stayed in the job as long as I did, but I quit that job and found one where I would be home every night.
 

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I also had the opinion that I was going to be committed to one wife for life, and I also believed that regardless of whatever, she was going to be a full partner in what the two of us did in life, so she would be entitled to half if we divorced.
I'm not saying you are right or wrong, but how does a government piece of paper factor into this opinion? I feel the same way. One wife, that's it. And if it ever went t8ts up for whatever reason, we split everything equally. But, I don't see the need for anyone else's views/opinions/government mandates to get in the way of this feeling.
 

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I'm not saying you are right or wrong, but how does a government piece of paper factor into this opinion? I feel the same way. One wife, that's it. And if it ever went t8ts up for whatever reason, we split everything equally. But, I don't see the need for anyone else's views/opinions/government mandates to get in the way of this feeling.

I didn't see an issue with getting a marriage license. Their "approval" of our union and married life means nothing compared to Biblical standards.
 


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