Thinking about joining as a reserve deputy

[Glock 'em down]

I don't 'regret' being an LEO, but looking back on 30+ years, I kinda wish I woulda done something else for a living.

Police work has taught me a helluva lot about people and society in general. It's taught me how NOT to be. It's taught me to stop drinking. It's made me a better man and a better husband to my wife and a better father to my kids.

However...

This is NOW that this has happened. 15 years ago, I was a bastard to my wife and a horse's ass to my kids. I had a girlfriend on the side, I missed ballgames and birthday parties and worked every single holiday. I had become what I most despised. Luckily, I left that toxic environment and went to work as a college campus police officer. Wow! Was that different. Instead of kicking in doors and shoving bad guys face first to the ground, here I was, helping poor, ignorant college students with simple tasks like unlocking their dorm room doors or changing a flat tire. We still do police work too, just not as intense as the street guys do.

Would I work the streets again? Probably not. Especially by today's standards. Things were different when I started. Not today. Every kid out there has a video camera in their pocket and a lawyer on speed dial.

 

[THAT Gurl]

Imagine had he know about a highly accident prone woman, that can’t even go into the back yard without being attacked by a tree. Really, the only way he’d be more perfect for you was if he was also a lumberjack and an er doc on top of his years of being a first responder.

Lol ... Dude!! I ask him ALL THE TIME why he stays with me. "To piss off my ex-" is his standard reply. I don't mind pissing her off AT ALL ... She's a ***** and a half.

 

[THAT Gurl]

I don't 'regret' being an LEO, but looking back on 30+ years, I kinda wish I woulda done something else for a living.

Police work has taught me a helluva lot about people and society in general. It's taught me how NOT to be. It's taught me to stop drinking. It's made me a better man and a better husband to my wife and a better father to my kids.

However...

This is NOW that this has happened. 15 years ago, I was a bastard to my wife and a horse's ass to my kids. I had a girlfriend on the side, I missed ballgames and birthday parties and worked every single holiday. I had become what I most despised. Luckily, I left that toxic environment and went to work as a college campus police officer. Wow! Was that different. Instead of kicking in doors and shoving bad guys face first to the ground, here I was, helping poor, ignorant college students with simple tasks like unlocking their dorm room doors or changing a flat tire. We still do police work too, just not as intense as the street guys do.

Would I work the streets again? Probably not. Especially by today's standards. Things were different when I started. Not today. Every kid out there has a video camera in their pocket and a lawyer on speed dial.

Do you have any idea how much I love you?? If more men in LE were honest about how the job affects them -- both with themselves and with their loved ones -- the divorce and suicide rates wouldn't be as high as they are. I firmly believe the only reason Scott and I are still together is in a ****ing stubborn ***** who was determined to make him pay for screwing me over and he was tough enough to take it like a man. (Actually I think he just didn't want to pack up all this **** ... ) Either way we made it to the other side. Thank goodness. Cuz he's not a bad guy ... He was just a damned ******* cop ...

 

[Glock 'em down]

Do you have any idea how much I love you?? If more men in LE were honest about how the job affects them -- both with themselves and with their loved ones -- the divorce and suicide rates wouldn't be as high as they are. I firmly believe the only reason Scott and I are still together is in a ****ing stubborn ***** who was determined to make him pay for screwing me over and he was tough enough to take it like a man. (Actually I think he just didn't want to pack up all this **** ... ) Either way we made it to the other side. Thank goodness. Cuz he's not a bad guy ... He was just a damned ******* cop ...

I loves you too, Patti.

I credit Mrs. GED 110% for everything in my life. I tell people all the time, Christ may have saved my soul, but Cindyann definitely saved my life. I remember calling her in the middle of the night after I had just broke up with my girlfriend. I had a bottle of whiskey in one hand and a gun in my other, fixing to blow my brains out. I had just got off the phone with my girlfriend, told her my intentions and she just laughed at me and hung up. But Cindyann told me to put the gun and the bottle down and just come home.

After all the bullsheet I had put her through, she still loved me unconditionally and completely and took me back.

It was rough for a few years, I ain't gonna lie. She had lots of questions and I answered each and every one of them truthfully. Even when it hurt me or her. She had to know the truth.

The bottom line is, this job changes a person. I've seen it ruin people's lives. I was just lucky enough to have the woman and kids I have.

 

[Gunbuffer]

what's your waist, buddy? I have a full left hand setup just collecting dust
its cordura

 

[THAT Gurl]

I loves you too, Patti.

I credit Mrs. GED 110% for everything in my life. I tell people all the time, Christ may have saved my soul, but Cindyann definitely saved my life. I remember calling her in the middle of the night after I had just broke up with my girlfriend. I had a bottle of whiskey in one hand and a gun in my other, fixing to blow my brains out. I had just got off the phone with my girlfriend, told her my intentions and she just laughed at me and hung up. But Cindyann told me to put the gun and the bottle down and just come home.

After all the bullsheet I had put her through, she still loved me unconditionally and completely and took me back.

It was rough for a few years, I ain't gonna lie. She had lots of questions and I answered each and every one of them truthfully. Even when it hurt me or her. She had to know the truth.

The bottom line is, this job changes a person. I've seen it ruin people's lives. I was just lucky enough to have the woman and kids I have.

Your wife is the woman I strive to be. I sometimes I wish I hadn't been so rough on Grumpy but then if I hadn't made him earn it the second time around would he have realized how much he hurt me and how serious I was?? I don't think so -- because he will tell you even now I don't get rattled, I don't get my feelings hurt, I don't get jealous, and generally speaking I don't get mad. I let a lot slide. Why?? Cuz I've never been the girl anyone ever noticed. ALWAYS been the wallflower. ALWAYS been the girl who was everyone's buddy but never anyone's girl. Problem with Grumpy is he DID hurt me and I WAS his girl, so he hurt me DEEPLY. Even up until very recently -- I still had lingering doubts about if he'd stay if I ever got sick ... Or hurt ... I think it's pretty safe to say he passed this last "test" with flying colors.

I will tell you something Scott's ex- said to me one afternoon when she was trying to run me off -- for the bazillionth time -- You guys deserve each other. Like all couples who lose their way -- for whatever reason -- and manage to find their way back through nothing less than sheer guts and determination -- we do, we DO deserve each other. And so do you and Cindyann.

 

[Glock 'em down]

Your wife is the woman I strive to be. I sometimes I wish I hadn't been so rough on Grumpy but then if I hadn't made him earn it the second time around would he have realized how much he hurt me and how serious I was?? I don't think so -- because he will tell you even now I don't get rattled, I don't get my feelings hurt, I don't get jealous, and generally speaking I don't get mad. I let a lot slide. Why?? Cuz I've never been the girl anyone ever noticed. ALWAYS been the wallflower. ALWAYS been the girl who was everyone's buddy but never anyone's girl. Problem with Grumpy is he DID hurt me and I WAS his girl, so he hurt me DEEPLY. Even up until very recently -- I still had lingering doubts about if he'd stay if I ever got sick ... Or hurt ... I think it's pretty safe to say he passed this last "test" with flying colors.

I will tell you something Scott's ex- said to me one afternoon when she was trying to run me off -- for the bazillionth time -- You guys deserve each other. Like all couples who lose their way -- for whatever reason -- and manage to find their way back through nothing less than sheer guts and determination -- we do, we DO deserve each other. And so do you and Cindyann.

Yeah, she's my everything. I would fall on my sword for her. I even went as far as telling both my daughters that she comes before them. Some people say I'm wrong by being that way, saying "but your kids will always be your kids. She could leave you." Yeah, probably so, but I had her before those kids.

 

[THAT Gurl]

Yeah, she's my everything. I would fall on my sword for her. I even went as far as telling both my daughters that she comes before them.

Yup ... Kids know how to work it. Lol And I think that kids who normally wouldn't think of trying get "encouragement" to do so from "friends".

 

[Snattlerake]

nnnn

Getting small pay for dealing with utmost plight of society daily.............no way. Glad you changed your mind.

Amen About every time you deal with the public it's a negative situation.

Your wife is the woman I strive to be. I sometimes I wish I hadn't been so rough on Grumpy but then if I hadn't made him earn it the second time around would he have realized how much he hurt me and how serious I was?? I don't think so -- because he will tell you even now I don't get rattled, I don't get my feelings hurt, I don't get jealous, and generally speaking I don't get mad. I let a lot slide. Why?? Cuz I've never been the girl anyone ever noticed. ALWAYS been the wallflower. ALWAYS been the girl who was everyone's buddy but never anyone's girl. Problem with Grumpy is he DID hurt me and I WAS his girl, so he hurt me DEEPLY. Even up until very recently -- I still had lingering doubts about if he'd stay if I ever got sick ... Or hurt ... I think it's pretty safe to say he passed this last "test" with flying colors.

I will tell you something Scott's ex- said to me one afternoon when she was trying to run me off -- for the bazillionth time -- You guys deserve each other. Like all couples who lose their way -- for whatever reason -- and manage to find their way back through nothing less than sheer guts and determination -- we do, we DO deserve each other. And so do you and Cindyann.

 

[El Pablo]

Yeah, she's my everything. I would fall on my sword for her. I even went as far as telling both my daughters that she comes before them. Some people say I'm wrong by being that way, saying "but your kids will always be your kids. She could leave you." Yeah, probably so, but I had her before those kids.

Marriage comes first, then kids. Kids greatly benefit from a strong marriage. Of course it doesn’t mean neglect your children.