General life question

[turkeyrun]

I haven’t seen an episode in perhaps 40 years, - but what exactly did Ward Cleaver do?


Seems like there was lots of lounging, ceremoniously taking off suit coats, smoking pipes and reading the paper with legs crossed like a girl. —- the Beav was perpetually between 8-10 years old and Wally was 15’ish?
Doing the math, Ward should’ve been between the age of 35 - 45, not gallivanting around like a 64 y/o fartknocker


I also enjoy the shows where whenever the gent gets home, there is ice and a carafe of bourbon waiting on the sideboard perpetually a’la Bewitched

Or how about Family Affair? “French!!! Get me a drink!” - why does a 53 year old bachelor alcoholic have a live in butler?

Ward worked in an office.
I believe, he was an Accountant.

Being a supporting character, he would have been only shown in situations dealing with the main character (Beaver), who would not be at the office.

Mr French (man servant) functions as Wife.

As great as it would be to be married to Sam (Bewitched). I'm not sure it would be great enough, to offset dealing with that M-i-L.

 

[retrieverman]

I have done this regularly throughout my life since my mid-30s. Has it made me a better person? Most definitely. Do I still get peeved when "someone" doesn't acknowledge my contributions. Well, yeah ... It's one of the less honorable qualities of the human condition, I think. Needing validation for doing the right thing.

I also think that certain parenting styles promote this need. It's how some of us are conditioned to see ourselves as loved and respected -- through what others acknowledge, not just what we know internally. That is a horribly difficult cycle to break in one's self. I know from personal experience.

I have a hard time being too rough on anyone who feels unappreciated. But I will also acknowledge that some personal accountability is ALWAYS a factor in emotions.

Do I like validation? Heck yeah, but I would be in for a world of hurt if I “had to have it”, because my wife is oblivious to her surroundings and NEVER HAS A CLUE when I mow the yard much less anything else. In my opinion, if you do stuff FOR validation, you’re doing it for the wrong reason, and I’m at the point in life that I don’t want to be noticed the vast majority of the time.
I come of this board and share some of what’s going on in my life, but I don’t share my personal business with anyone locally.

 

[John6185]

I plan on leaving my wife everything because she has stood by me for nearly three decades, she supports me in various ways, when my health fails she is always there, worrying, praying and caring for me. I can't think of any other member of the family that would be so faithful and loyal as well as loving. Certainly no one else can be as constant in their care of me as she has been.
She deserves more than I can give and what I leave behind for her is a pittance compared to what she'll be rewarded in Heaven. So, I have no reason in this round world to change any insurance policies benefiting others. I couldn't have found a better wife!

 

[THAT Gurl]

Do I like validation? Heck yeah, but I would be in for a world of hurt if I “had to have it”, because my wife is oblivious to her surroundings and NEVER HAS A CLUE when I mow the yard much less anything else. In my opinion, if you do stuff FOR validation, you’re doing it for the wrong reason, and I’m at the point in life that I don’t want to be noticed the vast majority of the time.
I come of this board and share some of what’s going on in my life, but I don’t share my personal business with anyone locally.

Yep.

 

[OkieMoe]

This was a HUGE point of contention with us for YEARS. Grumpy would come home from work, kick his boots off and turn on the tv. I would come home, change the laundry, fold the clothes, unload the dishwasher, cook dinner, load the dishwasher, open the mail, write checks, straighten the bed I didn't get to in the morning because I was herding teenagers, pick up the bathroom, start a load of laundry, and climb in bed at 11. So he could pester me for sex and I could maybe get to sleep by 1 and get up at 6 to do it all over again. I'm not gonna lie -- I got really resentful really quick and we had some problems. Clearly most of those are ironed out now -- mostly because I can't do it all anymore. Old age and trees falling are can be considered blessing after all ...

But I GET how beat up you guys get. Because as a single mom I've been there. And it sucks when NOBODY acknowledges that you get tired and worn out. It's just too easy to not think about what someone else is going thru sometimes I think.

As with most old guys like myself. We get stuck in the ways of yesteryear. And we must be retrained.

 

[THAT Gurl]

I plan on leaving my wife everything because she has stood by me for nearly three decades, she supports me in various ways, when my health fails she is always there, worrying, praying and caring for me. I can't think of any other member of the family that would be so faithful and loyal as well as loving. Certainly no one else can be as constant in their care of me as she has been.
She deserves more than I can give and what I leave behind for her is a pittance compared to what she'll be rewarded in Heaven. So, I have no reason in this round world to change any insurance policies benefiting others. I couldn't have found a better wife!

All my pissing and bitching and moaning aside, I hope Grumpy feels this way about me. I've said before that last one standing gets everything. Then, when that person passes Dusty is the executor to a trust that gives all our assets to him and the Oklahoma Youth Hunting Organization to do with as they please. Will be a hell of a fire sale, is my guess.

 

[crrcboatz]

My wife sure does. We’ve been 50/50 in sharing duties, raising the kids and working ever since we got together. Now she’s the main breadwinner and she is more than generous- she spoils me to no end. I got a helluva deal, and I try to take care of her to the best of my ability. Been a long road and I wouldn’t be here without her.

I have too the second time around

 

[-Pjackso]

....The last couple of years I have made some changes to my life insurance policies that will drastically benefit one person, and not my immediate family.

Sir,
I feel the pain you're going through, and I pray your path in life is guided by good hands.
Have you considered letting go of the relationship? Or double-down to fix it?

You can be a perfect husband/dad up to the day you die, and they may (internally) love you. But this act will hurt them for the rest of their lives, and destroy any 'loving memories' of their dad. There is no recovery from this.

I have no recommendations. I hope the best for you.

 

[retrieverman]

I plan on leaving my wife everything because she has stood by me for nearly three decades, she supports me in various ways, when my health fails she is always there, worrying, praying and caring for me. I can't think of any other member of the family that would be so faithful and loyal as well as loving. Certainly no one else can be as constant in their care of me as she has been.
She deserves more than I can give and what I leave behind for her is a pittance compared to what she'll be rewarded in Heaven. So, I have no reason in this round world to change any insurance policies benefiting others. I couldn't have found a better wife!

AMEN TO THIS!!!

 

[XYZ]

Don’t know if this will post but thought yup that’s it.