How to deal with a Divorce and kids

[RaysZ71]

I appreciate everyone's input and thanks. I work late hours so that's why Im not here much. I will contact all attorneys you guys recommend.

 

[Trashboat]

Having an ex wife is the best part of marriage.

 

[okcwizzard]

Good Lord... How many of us are going thru this right now?
Do we need to start an OSA divorce support group?
Ray, Man i feel for ya, Caught mine cheating,(got the proof)
Keep finding more proof (twists the heart a little bit more)
Or people that knew but didn't say a word. (thanks a lot)It hurts way deep.
We have also have kids, 3 together + a Stepdaughter and a grandchild.
Mine when caught, just wanted her car,clothes, makeup ect and walked out.
With the kids watching it all unfold.. Called her new boy for a ride.. FML!

 

[HMFIC]

Too many of us in this situation... we're going to need a bigger boat.

 

[Billybob]

When my ex left she did it in the middle of the night with the kids, it took me about 3mo. to track her down, fight a suit from the State of ARK. and make her come back to OK.

 

[trickormate]

Divorce is tough all they way around, dealing with this type of situation in the past. I would tell you, you need to get custody of your son and if you have adopted the little girl I would tell you to do the same. I think you trying to work this out 3 different times with her. I think you have shown that you were willing to work this out, if you have a Pastor or if your Dad is still around you need to talk to them and let them help you in this tough time.

Best Regards,

 

[ssgrock3]

If you are ready to end your marriage, get a lawyer.
If she is willing and you think you could forgive her, see a marriage counselor.

Good luck.

Good advice. There is no middle ground.
Seek a counselor for yourself. They will help you with the grief and loss of trust, etc. and help you sort out your true feelings.

 

[rings]

Divorce SUCKS all around! I just ended my marriage of only 2.5yrs in May. Luckily we didnt have any kids, so I can only imagine how painful that is. The greatest advice has already been given to you though...Dont bad mouth the kids mom, I grew up in a broken home and had a mother that ran her mouth about my father(still does and Im 31). Its annoying and can become an issue for the children.

Seek help from friends, family, pastors, counselors, anyone that you can talk to as talking about it does help! Good luck with this mess and I wish the best for ya! Also Id be willing to listen if you need someone...

 

[Thorgrim]

Did you know in OK. it can be a felony for the guy who was messing with your wife. Most judges won't make any charges; but if she tries to use her bf as a character witness for her, his (bf) statements will go out the window.

 

[Comte DeLoach]

I've been married almost 10 years. Met my wife in 2001 and were married in 2002. She had a small 14 mo old girl. Two years later we had our own boy. Tonight I found out that she has cheated on me and she has been talking to this guy for a little bit. I love my son and daughter but I know that once this happens, I will have no rights to her. How do I deal with this? I never imagined myself not being able to say goodnight to my son and daughter every night and now this is upon me and I don't know how to handle it. Everything seems so messed up and confusing right now. So many emotions, Im scared, I feel like I cant breath. If some of you here have gone thru this, how do I deal with this?

Either get hurt over it, and leave, divorce, etc or remember, you wont miss a slice from a cut loaf. Your choice.