Omg. So my xwife was your mother! J/J had to say it.
Omg. So my xwife was your mother! J/J had to say it.
Glad you outlived that crap. I hope you can put it all behind you but I know how hard (impossible?) that is. Sometimes you wake up in the middle of the night remembering stuff you wish you could forget. More power to you.
Look forward to the day when these dead relatives are not in the forefront of your mind, and look even farther forward to a day when you do not think of them at all.
Death is a bit like divorce. You aren't really divorced as long as the ex occupies a lot of your thoughts, and despised relatives are still alive as long as you hold them in your daily thoughts.
Don't be too proud to get a little counseling if they hang around and bother you. CB
Death is a bit like divorce. You aren't really divorced as long as the ex occupies a lot of your thoughts, and despised relatives are still alive as long as you hold them in your daily thoughts.
Don't be too proud to get a little counseling if they hang around and bother you. CB
I know what your going through!! None of mine has the issues of drug abuse, but have been and still are hateful towards my Dad.
When my grandfather passed after several years from the effects of Alzhiemers, his entire farm was willed to my dad. Now my dad has four brothers and four sisters, none of which put any effort into working the farm. My dad, even though he was a long haul trucker, put almost all his off time into working the farm. The only time the rest showed up was after harvest and canning to get their share. After the will had been read, the hate mail started from all his brothers and sisters, except one. In the state of Georgia since all had been mentioned and written out of the will, none could challenged in court. This still goes on to this day. My dad decided to sell most of the farm to one of his brothers, and set it up so that he had to pay equal amounts to each sibling. Not only did the hate mail not stop, but even I get it from time to time because I have Ggrandfathers shotgun that has been passed to me. So not only do I get hate mail from aunts and uncles, but from my cousins as to what happened to the shotgun. Its to bad that my family is one who live extreamly long lives. My dad is the second youngest and is 75yrs old. Family reunions don't happen, except for my immediate family of my brother and sister and dad. My mother would be there but she passed in 2000 due to Alzhiemers.
When my grandfather passed after several years from the effects of Alzhiemers, his entire farm was willed to my dad. Now my dad has four brothers and four sisters, none of which put any effort into working the farm. My dad, even though he was a long haul trucker, put almost all his off time into working the farm. The only time the rest showed up was after harvest and canning to get their share. After the will had been read, the hate mail started from all his brothers and sisters, except one. In the state of Georgia since all had been mentioned and written out of the will, none could challenged in court. This still goes on to this day. My dad decided to sell most of the farm to one of his brothers, and set it up so that he had to pay equal amounts to each sibling. Not only did the hate mail not stop, but even I get it from time to time because I have Ggrandfathers shotgun that has been passed to me. So not only do I get hate mail from aunts and uncles, but from my cousins as to what happened to the shotgun. Its to bad that my family is one who live extreamly long lives. My dad is the second youngest and is 75yrs old. Family reunions don't happen, except for my immediate family of my brother and sister and dad. My mother would be there but she passed in 2000 due to Alzhiemers.
- Joined
- Jul 26, 2007
- Messages
- 1,411
- Reaction score
- 1
I hope this will help at least one person..... I carried justified intense hatred towards my parents that ate at my guts day in and day out and it changed me into a person that I didnt want to be. It was with me 24/7 365.
Dont let them own you even after they are gone..... I finally quit hating, I even quit thinking about them, and I am so much happier and serene with my life now.
Dont let them own you even after they are gone..... I finally quit hating, I even quit thinking about them, and I am so much happier and serene with my life now.
