Santa Clause for kids Rant

[itzkwik]

I'm divorced and remarried with a 9 year old from the previous and have complete custody w/ the other having supervised visits.
My 9 year old still believed in Santa as I would have it ,as long as I could,it's fun an creates some of the best memories to be had as a child and a parent watching and getting to play the part.
My wife now and stepmother of 7 years whom is awesome has continued to embolden the fact to our daughter that Mr.Clause is very real and children whom don't believe get coal in their stockings,so we had made a firm believer
Until today when my child comes home calling her stepmother a liar and Santa isnt real and her biological mother says my wife lies and she doesn't have to listen to anything she says.
I just don't get people,I just don't get it,my daughter was soooo ready for Santa to come this year,and now my wife is irate over them calling her a liar to our child ,it's like they are out to hurt the adults by using the children with absolutely no regard for the kid.
I have to keep my cool for 9 more years,it just sucks ass.
Rant off.

 

[JB Books]

Bro, some people ae just miserable and they want everyone else to be miserable...even kids.

I don't get the parents who don't let their kids believe in Santa Claus or celebrate Halloween. It seems mean spirited and cheap. Some of them give religious excuses, but I think they are just cheap spoil sports.

Life is hard and kids grow soon enough to experience the pain, misery, disappointment and hardship that living brings. Let kids be kids.

Of course, we don't have any children, so what the hell do I know?

 

[andrsnsm]

Seems like the ex is so bitter that she will use the child, no matter what, to get at you. She sounds petty, selfish, and immature. I am sorry the child had to find out that way.

 

[XD-9Guy]

I never believed in Santa Clause, it was always about the birth of Jesus and I always knew that the gifts came from family members in fact their names were on the presents. Even with that upbringing, I have to say that is a jerky thing to do. I have a special kind of disgust for people that "use" children in an effort to lash out at an ex. It's sad that someone will stoop so low even more so because it's at the expense of their own child.

 

[dennishoddy]

Seems like the ex is so bitter that she will use the child, no matter what, to get at you. She sounds petty, selfish, and immature. I am sorry the child had to find out that way.

I have to agree with this.
My ex and I agreed to not involve the kids in our disagreements, and never did. We co-exist, and do speak on occasion 21 years later.
Her parents are still my friends.

 

[itzkwik]

My ex is about stirring up trouble when noone is paying attention to her.
I don't think I have been this sad in a long while,cuz my hands are tied and I have to watch a helpless sweet little girl get torn back and forth wanting to believe both of us, I will say this,SANTA will be coming to our house this year.
I mint even leave a about 100# of coal on their doorstep.

 

[Buddhaman]

I still get gifts from "Santa" aka the whole family. My parents were divorced when I was younger (8-10 years old, I don't really remember when nor does it matter) and neither of them attempted to "use" me to dislike the other's new spouse. It really irks me when people drag their children into their disagreements. You guys didn't work out, she shouldn't be turning your daughter against her step-mother. I'd give her a call and talk things out, explain your side of things (since you have custody).

 

[SoonerDVM]

..., I will say this,SANTA will be coming to our house this year....

I know you're just ranting and that you weren't really asking for advice... but I suggest you really consider whether this is the best approach.

Yep, it really was a wretched thing for your ex to do, but the fact is... the truth is on her side.

At this point, if you continue trying to insist that Santa is real, when she does find out the truth -which she will - you're going to be the parent who "lied" to her, and the ex is going to be the one who told her the truth.

I'd suggest you take a page from "Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus," and come clean with your daughter. Tell her that Santa embodies the spirit of the holiday and you just wanted her to experience that. Or... ya know... something.

 

[RaysZ71]

Wait! There's no Santa?? wth!?

 

[benjamin-benjamin]

Bro, some people ae just miserable and they want everyone else to be miserable...even kids.

I don't get the parents who don't let their kids believe in Santa Claus or celebrate Halloween. It seems mean spirited and cheap. Some of them give religious excuses, but I think they are just cheap spoil sports.

Life is hard and kids grow soon enough to experience the pain, misery, disappointment and hardship that living brings. Let kids be kids.

Of course, we don't have any children, so what the hell do I know?

not agreeing with what the ex did, but just be careful about "judging" parents on the whole santa claus thing, because i felt the complete opposite growing up. I won't get into it here because it is kind of off topic and i want to be respectful of the OP... just saying be careful about calling parents mean spirited because my parents were nothing of the sort......