divorce #4
This is the list Go have a conferences with each of them now and spill your guts. Then, even if you don't hire them, she can't either.
If he talks to one of these lawyers about a possible divorce - just talks, no hiring - that lawyer is thereby barred from talking to the spouse in a legal capacity? I know it works that way if the lawyer is retained, but just a talk with no retainer?
I feel for you guys having to deal with divorce and the aftermath. I've not taken the plunge myself, partly because of this.
Give me a call if you want/need to talk brother. I went down that road of reconciliation and in hindsight it was worth it to spend more 100% time with the kids (but I should have protected myself better and made mistakes there), but the writing was on the wall and the eventual further split and heartache involved was inevitable. If you're making excuses for her now, you'll likely be making them for her again only you might even been in a worse position and have wasted time that you could have used bettering yourself and finding someone who REALLY will commit and love you. There is something to be said for counseling and trying to communicate and make things better, but in the end, both of you have to WANT it and be CAPABLE of it... sometimes it just boils down to not being truly compatible at that level. You have to be able to identify the truth and possibilities... be realistic and separate it from emotions which is hard to do.
I might just do that, thanks.
Yes. It's called "conflicting out" potential counsel. As a lawyer, even the initial free consultation is considered privileged. Also, as a lawyer, you are on the same malpractice hook for FREE advice as you are for paying customers. Consequently, I don't do favors or give free advice and I instruct the lawyers who work for me to do likewise.
I may soon be on this train as well. I don't blame her, I did but I don't now living with some that has undiagnosed depression and anxiety and doesn't like going out to do things because of it can't be easy.
Mine will be pretty easy though she gets the house and her car the furniture is hers I get my truck and my stuff and we walk away.
Mine will be pretty easy though she gets the house and her car the furniture is hers I get my truck and my stuff and we walk away.
oh geezzz....work it out if you can, this sucks balls.
Reading all this just makes my heart ache! My wife & I have been married for over 23 years. During this time, we have certainly had our ups and downs. We are both committed to our marriage and it definitely takes a lot of work. It also can't just be a one-way decision. In fact, at this very moment, we are on our way to our 16th "Marriage Retreat" weekend get-away. We drove for the past two days from OK to North Carolina, where we'll spend the weekend and head home Sunday afternoon.
We started attending these years ago when the kids were young, as a good way to spend time away from the kids - (we have 5 girls - yours, mine and ours, from 21 to 37)! We missed a few years here and there due to my work requirements, but we always look forward to going away and spending the time together, focusing on ways to make our marriage relationship better. Our middle girl and her husband flew out today to NC and I picked them up tonight at the airport. They will be attending this weekend also. This is their third year to attend one of these and about #16 or 17 for us.
As I said earlier, my heart aches after reading thru all these posts. To all you folks going thru separations and divorces, you're in my thoughts and prayers. I wish there was something I could do to help rebuild and reconcile these relationships!
We started attending these years ago when the kids were young, as a good way to spend time away from the kids - (we have 5 girls - yours, mine and ours, from 21 to 37)! We missed a few years here and there due to my work requirements, but we always look forward to going away and spending the time together, focusing on ways to make our marriage relationship better. Our middle girl and her husband flew out today to NC and I picked them up tonight at the airport. They will be attending this weekend also. This is their third year to attend one of these and about #16 or 17 for us.
As I said earlier, my heart aches after reading thru all these posts. To all you folks going thru separations and divorces, you're in my thoughts and prayers. I wish there was something I could do to help rebuild and reconcile these relationships!
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