I disagree. My dad always said "if I ever get like that, shoot me. I don't want to live like ****".
I didn't shoot him, he got in such awful shape it's criminal. I honestly thought about going extra on his pain meds to hasten him along, but I didn't. I feel somewhat guilty for not doing so, but he had the opportunity to exit before it got that far. I do not intend for my last few years to be like his. An accident, a stroke, something may prevent me from making that decision, but if possible I will not be like Dad.
I understand how you feel. I still consider it an honor to help elders live out their lives as they choose. Except for my dad the others have chosen hospice and I respect their decisions and I’m happy to help my wife however I can with her mom.