Bad Decision

[BadgeBunny]

we can always talk elsewhere as I am sure you know I don't take offense to anything really. I am open I have done stupid things, I about lost her and I regret that every day.

I am grateful every day for her and the kiddos and what I have here. I have had my eye openings and rude awakenings that brought me back to reality.

Not necessary. Others have tried to explain to me why a ring and all the other trappings of a traditional wedding and marriage are important. Those things are totally unnecessary and a waste of money (to me anyway).

Like I said in my original post, trying to compare whether your relationship "measures up" to society's standards is a really, really bad idea. What works for you and Becky seems unnecessary to me and GC. A lot of people would tell you we are destined for divorce court because we don't wear rings and each of us live pretty independent lives aside and apart from our married life.

However, what works for us would drive someone else batty, I am sure ...

 

[ArGyLe64]

I've been married just over 3 years and it's been a nightmare most of the time.

 

[Keelty]

So I made a horrible decision of reading a thread (On a different gun site) about "Why did you get divorced" and I've got to say it scared the crap out of me. So could someone PLEASE tell me something good about marriage before I run away and become a gun-toting nun.

Marriage can be a wonderful thing! It does take work though.

The marriage counseling thing is a great idea.

Make sure he is the right one for sure!

 

[Zombie]

Not necessary. Others have tried to explain to me why a ring and all the other trappings of a traditional wedding and marriage are important. Those things are totally unnecessary and a waste of money (to me anyway).

Like I said in my original post, trying to compare whether your relationship "measures up" to society's standards is a really, really bad idea. What works for you and Becky seems unnecessary to me and GC. A lot of people would tell you we are destined for divorce court because we don't wear rings and each of us live pretty independent lives aside and apart from our married life.

However, what works for us would drive someone else batty, I am sure ...

very true words from a very wise lady. Yes rings and some of that stuff is truly unnecessary and only for show...but in the end it's only money and always more out there. I don't try and compare us to society as both of us have quirks and are weird and I'd go crazy trying to figure out why people are so strange...

 

[okgirl]

Not necessary. Others have tried to explain to me why a ring and all the other trappings of a traditional wedding and marriage are important. Those things are totally unnecessary and a waste of money (to me anyway).

Like I said in my original post, trying to compare whether your relationship "measures up" to society's standards is a really, really bad idea. What works for you and Becky seems unnecessary to me and GC. A lot of people would tell you we are destined for divorce court because we don't wear rings and each of us live pretty independent lives aside and apart from our married life.

However, what works for us would drive someone else batty, I am sure ...

This is extremely true. What works for someone doesn't work for others. Never the less 4 pages of pure hatred towards marriage is a frightening thought.

 

[hipshot]

BE PATIENT!! I met my wife on May 7th and moved in with her on May 14th. We have been together for 51\2 years and the last 5 years have not been happy. Just cheaper to keep her!

 

[ExSniper]

36 years and counting. Make sure you are friends, not just romance, not just lust, not just lovers, but friends.
Decide that marriage takes effort on the part of both partners, everyday for the rest of your life.
As to long-term dating relationships and living together, the statistics show that divorce rates are about the same whether you have dated one year or more or one year or less and wheteher or not you have lived together.
When you make the commitment to your partner you have to decide it is permanent.

 

[BadgeBunny]

This is extremely true. What works for someone doesn't work for others. Never the less 4 pages of pure hatred towards marriage is a frightening thought.

lol, true dat ... Let me tell you about my FIRST marriage ...

OK ... now that I have been reminded I HAD a first marriage, I need a drink ...

 

[jbarnett]

My co-workers had a pool going on how long GC and I were gonna last ... It's been 9 years now. One of the lawyers later told me the longest anyone gave us was 6 months. Toads ...

That was what most of the people gave my wife and I. She was the smart quiet one and I was,,, well, a little honery. We just had our 18th anniv. I am pretty lucky.

 

[WhiteyMacD]

Most of the people who dog marriages either:

A.) rushed into it
B.) did it for the wrong reasons

Do it because you truly found the person you want to grow old with, that you love, and that you want to share everything with.

It will be loads of work, but thats why its considered a vocation. Anything thats worth anything, you have to work for.

To me, divorce is like suicide. It's the easy way out. (biggest difference is I can think of reason where I would stand behind a divorce; abuse, etc).