Bad Decision

[BadgeBunny]

Being friends and having the same goals in life seems to help us.

This ... When we got together all we wanted was a little peace and quiet. We work very hard at maintaining that one, single goal. Every single argument we have ever had has ended in one or the other of us just shutting up and waiting for it to pass ...

We have therapist friends who say that is very damaging to us as individuals ... Whatever ... it keeps one of us out of jail and the other out of the morgue ... and isn't that the ultimate goal??

 

[POSITIVE DISCONTENT]

Run.... You want companionship get a dog (thanx BB)... Remain self centered and narcissistic until you have decided on a carrier and are practicing in it. Then when you have all that mastered you can add someone else's bad habits, their problems and their bills into your life... Date, enjoy but stop there.... I'm a 2x survivor.... I let the first ruin Pre-med and the second my business...

 

[BadgeBunny]

Run.... You want companionship get a dog (thanx BB)... Remain self centered and narcissistic until you have decided on a carrier and are practicing in it. Then when you have all that mastered you can add someone else's bad habits, their problems and their bills into your life... Date, enjoy but stop there.... I'm a 2x survivor.... I let the first ruin Pre-med and the second my business...

You're welcome!!

I gotta say that as much as I like GC, if anything were ever to happen (God forbid) I would not marry again. I like the freedom of being single ... a LOT.

For those of you who do not know, there is 15 years between my first marriage (which lasted less than a year) and my marriage to GC ... And he had to trick me to get me to the courthouse.

That is NOT a testament to how good a woman I am ... it is a testament to how good a man HE is ...

 

[Old Fart]

The upside is when you get it right it is awesome.
Over 30 years of good times with my sweety.

 

[VitruvianDoc]

I was with my now wife for 5 years before we got married just 4 months ago, so I am still in the "newly" wed period according to many, but my own opinion is that we were in that years ago and just finally got around to getting the title of married.

I think Lee Brice's song Love Like Crazy sums up my wife and I (other than the whole job and children aspect lol)

My wife and I were highschool sweethearts, my parents and hers continually tried breaking us up as we were "too serious," and college rolled around and we had to do the long distance thing for two years until I moved back, we then lived together for 2 years and finished undergrad. Now I am in medical school, she teaches, and we are finally married.

Its never been easy, but neither is anything in life worth having. My grandparents came from abusive homes and were on their own from age 13 after running away. My parents were the first in their families to go to college. Then my sister and I are the first to get graduate degrees. In three generations we have gone from rags to richess.

My point is that marriage is just another journey within life, it has to be worked for and when you find the right person to work with you, its incredible.

The majority of the reasons Ive seen marrages fail (my wifes parents have both been married and divorced now two times each!) is the unwillingness to treat eachother as equals, and overall lack of motivation and compassion. As soon as you loose love and devotion, your marriage is a house of cards.

 

[grizzly97]

Wish i could tell you a lot of good things about marriage okgirl, but i was only married for 2 years and got divorced. The good part, is I know it was a hasty decision and was just a bad call. On the other hand, when our marriage was going well I was never happier! Some people said it is a good idea to be friends first, and i agree. It didn't help my marriage (we were friends for 3 years before we dated). It definitley didn't help that she was a bar chick though. lol All you can really do is not judge your relationship by other people's. They are all different! Best of luck to you!

 

[oneshotonekill]

We have been married for a little over two years and dated about a year and a half before that. We got married, bought a house and moved across the state all within a couple of months. Then I started pharmacy school and she is finishing up her degree. Money is non-existent and we both do without a lot. That being said I wouldn't change it for the world. We fight sure and we make up that is how it works. She is my best friend and always will be. Marriage is a constant give and take, and it can't be one sided.

There are days that I KNOW would be easier if I was single. But I have never really been one to take the easy road. Marriage is a lot of work sometimes but I figure if we are both happy the majority of the time then it's worth it. (Never been one to think that the world is an awesome place and happiness is constant)

 

[n423]

The upside is when you get it right it is awesome.
Over 30 years of good times with my sweety.

Agree w/ OF. We have also been married 30 years.

 

[Larry Morgan]

My GF and I will have been together for 3 years this November. We've been living together for about a year now. No major problems so far. Sure we've had disagreements, but I don't get the whole "knock down, drag out" fights people talk about. Most of the time its because they're serving their own agenda first, instead of considering what's best for the relationship. For example, saying something subtly mean or hurtful just to try to prove a point, when in reality it adds nothing to the discussion and does nothing to bring you closer to an agreement with your significant other. It's tough to do when you're upset, but I think a lot of people could benefit from asking themselves the true meaning behind something before saying it. Are you saying it to better the relationship, or are you just saying it out of spite or to feel superior in a disagreement.

 

[brazilianboy]

interesting articles about love and marriage : http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1704672,00.html

http://news.softpedia.com/news/Love-Just-Another-One-of-Nature-s-Tricks-16291.shtml