I listen to my wife----when she gets my attention first. When listening, I look at her and give both verbal and non-verbal clues that I am very interested in what she has to say. When she is finished talking, I turn away and completely disregard whatever it was she was just talking about and do things my way. This allows her the opportunity to say, "Well, I told you.....(whatever)" when it turns out that my way was wrong after all.....which turns out to be most of the time.