If I were you, stuff is just stuff. Liquidate ASAP. If you are really getting divorced, you are going to need the cash. A good divorce lawyer is not cheap but worth every penny. The stuff you sell now you will regain because of the choice of a good lawyer. Reduce all your expenses, you don't need a storage bill. Get a room just to sleep and bathe until the storm of the divorce blows over. You got to define what you need and what you want. The wants are disposable. If you really look at it, all you really need is a bed, clothes, toiletries and a vehicle. Once you get started again, you can replace all the stuff. I've been down this road, like i said, stuff is just stuff. Just my .02 from a guy who's been there.
Try not take it personally. People often say things that they intend to make you feel better that often don't. People usually tell me "at least you don't have kids". While it may be true, I don't have to worry about the emotional effects or the custody battles. It doesn't make me feel any better, and usually just annoys me... A divorce is tough freaking situation no matter the circumstances. Hang in there, and realize that no matter the outcome there is still hope for the future.
Very sorry to hear this Brother. If you need anything, let me know.
sorry to hear that. I wouldn't wish a divorce on anybody.
No it'll be an amicable process we'll probably have a mediator draw everything up. She gets the house and the equity since we just bought it in 2006 most of our payment has been interest and the down payment was part her savings and a gift to her from her grandfather. We'll close the joint credit accounts and I'll take most of those since her student loans are close to 700 a month. she gets her car and payment I get my truck and payment. Then I get to go through the long painful process of getting my **** moved and stored. Talked to the mortgage company all we have to do is have the house added to the decree judgement and I can do a quit claim and give her my interest in the property.
Be very careful about this part brother. It doesn't make a hill of beans if you quit claim and have the decree, if she misses payments or worse gets foreclosed at any point in the future, YOU can still be on the hook and it will effect your credit. It doesn't matter what the mortgage company tells you, your name is still on that note and a divorce decree signed by a judge doesn't negate that contract. I would force the issue and sell the house, deal with the proceeds or MAKE her refinance it under her name ONLY. Trust me on this one... you cannot just trust that everything will be ok.
I talked to the bank just today about refinancing and asked to have her name removed. He said until we are divorced her name must remain on there. So after you get the decree, take it and do a refi then. The interest rates are killer right now and she may save a lot of money doing it anyway.
He also mentioned the quick claim deed...
Do everything possible to stay married. The history you have together is irreplaceable. Counselors, The Fireproof strategy, anything. You won't regret it. If the divorce is still going to happen you have the peace of mind of having tried everything.
I am sorry for both of you. Take the high road you won't regret that either. Remember children may have the access someday to court records. Stuff ain't worth hurting people for a lifetime especially your kids.
God loves you both.
I am sorry for both of you. Take the high road you won't regret that either. Remember children may have the access someday to court records. Stuff ain't worth hurting people for a lifetime especially your kids.
God loves you both.
nonsense......when only one wants to be married it will never work and you'll be miserable with a person who doesn't feel the same as you. why would you want to stay married to some one who doesn't want you anymore/
Similar threads
