So dont rush to a divorce. Let her see your addressing your issue and stay seperated for awhile while you work on the issue.
Me and my wife agreed to try and fix the wrongs on her side and mine while we remain seperated. Its very doable I think.
Me and my wife agreed to try and fix the wrongs on her side and mine while we remain seperated. Its very doable I think.
To love and to hold, to cherish in sickness and in health. I took my end serious I failed to cherish her though I loved her and held her.
I decided I needed to put my ring back on I am still married even if we are apart. I had a good day today only wound up in tears once. Made it to my sons 8th grade choir concert that was a chore being around so many people but I got through it and I am glad I did.
This sounds very familiar to me. Very.
Work on better, then work on your marriage. Divorce is for those who violate the trust with infidelity and the like. Your situation sounds all too much like mine and its fixable.
Oh she committed in my eyes what I consider to be an infidelity, she made friends with another man and rather than opening up and talking to me about our problems she formed an emotional attachment to him and discussed it with him. So yeah that's rough she broke a trust I have had in her for 7 years.
But I can forgive that and have done so, there were times when other men would have given up when she had emotional problems but I stuck around so it feels like double kick in the teeth to me. I have big shoulders and a big heart, I'm doing what I need to do for me and it's time to quit worrying about her for now.
My ex wife had guy friends. Part of the reason she is my ex wife. That never works out.
That's real talk. If you can follow through then there might be hope. If I was you I wouldn't abandon ship just yet. Some people are born a'holes and jerks. There is help for that. Sounds like you're headed in the right direction.
BP, my heart goes out to you. While I am sure there are still ups and downs in your future (as there are for all of us), I will pray that they are fewer and more far between for you and yours.
I have always known that I'm not the nicest or most pleasant person to be around. But I couldn't see how bad I was, it's true that you hurt the ones closest to you the worst. I just want to feel normal and happy. I am working on that now. I see my psychologist today and my therapist tomorrow. It's been almost a week since I came home from the hospital and everyone of them has seemed like a horrible challenge. I want so badly to call her and hear her voice and to talk to her about my day yesterday but I know that is the wrong thing to do right now. I hate that I can't fix this alone, I can fix myself and am going to I sure hope we get the chance to fix us in the future.
My fear is that if she doesn't see me or talk to me that she will lose that love for me so I have to learn to deal with my anxiety if it doesn't work out it doesn't work.
[/quote] Talked to the mortgage company all we have to do is have the house added to the decree judgement and I can do a quit claim and give her my interest in the property.[/QUOTE]
You have been given good advice already but I cannot stress enough how much she needs to refi in her name only or you will be on the hook for the mortgage if it defaults. doing a quit claim deed only does away with your rights to the house, it has absolutely nothing to do with the mortgage. Pretty much the same goes with anything you all have duel financing on like autos etc if your name is on her car loan and vice versa you need to re fi those as well.
You have been given good advice already but I cannot stress enough how much she needs to refi in her name only or you will be on the hook for the mortgage if it defaults. doing a quit claim deed only does away with your rights to the house, it has absolutely nothing to do with the mortgage. Pretty much the same goes with anything you all have duel financing on like autos etc if your name is on her car loan and vice versa you need to re fi those as well.
Been there done that...Sorry to hear that man.
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