Obedience, covenant, holding up your end. For better or worse. . . some folks take that very close to their hearts.
+1000. I tried everything to stay married but it just made me and eventually the kids miserable. When I had finally had enough and got a divorce i felt like I had just got out of prison and regret the time I wasted on her. But it was a complicated situation and I have full custody of my kids too. The feeling of wanting her to stay married to you is a normal emotion everyone goes through. And it sounds like a nice painless divorce she has agreed to but be prepared. Things could get ugly fast.
There is some truth in this. The trick is being able to identify when it's to that point...
I had that attitude.
Unfortunately my ex did not.
In the end, I gave it everything and ended up even attempting a reconciliation and then got doubly screwed over which is why I'm in court with her again. In hindsight, I'm glad I gave it my all, but it made it hurt that much worse and it put me in a much worse position than I was in every single way.
At least now I do know that I gave it my best. There is some comfort in that.
And don't misread what I said. I am just offering that some people would rather live with the situation than to break their covenant. What you do with your life is between you and the almighty. I say this being married to a woman who was previously married.
I am leaving her alone, told her the truth I didn't have the heart to file the papers so I am just going to leave her alone. She is gonna have to be the one to file, she still loves me so maybe time can heal the damage I have done.
I am working on getting right with myself I suffer from depression and anxiety, for 20+ years I have pretended to be normal and happy in public, but when I get behind locked doors I let the act drop and as much as I love her my words and my tone have hurt her. It took me melting down completely to talk to someone qualified to help me. A friend I met here on OSA is the one that convinced me to go get help. I'm working on me right now another friend I met here on OSA helped me out telling me the same thing I knew in my heart that I can't work on a marriage when she doesn't want to and I just have to focus on making myself whole. It takes 2 whole people to make a marriage work not 2 halves.
I am working on getting right with myself I suffer from depression and anxiety, for 20+ years I have pretended to be normal and happy in public, but when I get behind locked doors I let the act drop and as much as I love her my words and my tone have hurt her. It took me melting down completely to talk to someone qualified to help me. A friend I met here on OSA is the one that convinced me to go get help. I'm working on me right now another friend I met here on OSA helped me out telling me the same thing I knew in my heart that I can't work on a marriage when she doesn't want to and I just have to focus on making myself whole. It takes 2 whole people to make a marriage work not 2 halves.
This!!!!!!!!!!! If your name is on the title, you can and will be held responsible if she EVER defaults on the loan. The only way to change that is to have her refinance the house in HER name ONLY. Neither a divorce decree nor a quit claim deed, nor both together will negate the fact that your name is on the title of that property. You don't even have to ask me how I know....For what it is worth, I have survived a divorce and you will, too. Just remember to ask for help when you need it.
I fixed a few things in your post. A quit claim deed will get his name off the deed. Real Estate doesn't have titles.
Okay, it's been a few years....A quit claim deed will get his name off the deed, but he is still liable for the mortgage on said property, should she ever default. Thank you for the clarification.
then why do they have title companies to change ownership of real estate?
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