Oh wow. Sorry man. I hope I dont have to go through that.
Oh wow. Sorry man. I hope I dont have to go through that.
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Don't be sorry, it was my fault.
Bottom line of my advise: Hope for the best, prepare for the worst!
We are in OKC this weekend. If you wanna hang out for a Soda or so with me and my wife and get some more advise (she's divorced too), let me know.
Good luck man, Its going to be a long road ahead of you.
Ray, if you really are DONE, then $1,700 is dirt cheap! Don't let it ride or you and the daughter both stand a good chance at losing your relationship. Protect your rights brother; get the show on the road. I feel your pain; hope all works out for you and wil be praying for you and the kids.
This type of thing seems to be going around... way too prevalent.
First, I'm sorry and I feel everything you do. I've gone through a similar and worse situation over the course of the last two and a half years with her leaving, coming back and then leaving again and all the time acting foolish, hateful, manipulative, and going to extreme measures just to attempt to have control over the kids.
This last time... Okie98 gave me some real clarity with just a couple of sentences. He said to not look back on her, she's made her choice. Also to keep in mind that your kids will remember every moment you share with them and to make the best of those moments. Thanks Al, I still hear those words from you in my head and they help.
It's still hard to not get caught up on all of the drama that she may create and to not let your emotions get the best of you, but your kids will need you now more than ever to be a pillar for them even when you're not with them all of the time. Trust in God to be your pillar too and to give you the strength you need to stand tall and weather the storm. It will get better eventually.
First, I'm sorry and I feel everything you do. I've gone through a similar and worse situation over the course of the last two and a half years with her leaving, coming back and then leaving again and all the time acting foolish, hateful, manipulative, and going to extreme measures just to attempt to have control over the kids.
This last time... Okie98 gave me some real clarity with just a couple of sentences. He said to not look back on her, she's made her choice. Also to keep in mind that your kids will remember every moment you share with them and to make the best of those moments. Thanks Al, I still hear those words from you in my head and they help.
It's still hard to not get caught up on all of the drama that she may create and to not let your emotions get the best of you, but your kids will need you now more than ever to be a pillar for them even when you're not with them all of the time. Trust in God to be your pillar too and to give you the strength you need to stand tall and weather the storm. It will get better eventually.
Wow this is a bad memory for me, your situation is almost carbon copy to what mine was 4 years ago. My wife cheated on me, and then cheated on her boyfriend with another guy and so on and so on. Anyway I thought I'd lose my kids for sure but after proving what happened in court I have full custody of my children and I call the shots. But she was being a 100% bad person at the time, this may not be the case with your wife, if she is still a good mother you need to try and have some shared custody. It was better for my children to not ever see her again.
If you can forgive her that's better but if not don't think you immediately lose your children, the courts have changed and men are always the bad guy anymore.
It's rare for me to give this advice out on a public forum but I would suggest praying about this and seeing what the good Lord will give you for advice, plans are plans and things are sometimes easier when he guides them.
If you can forgive her that's better but if not don't think you immediately lose your children, the courts have changed and men are always the bad guy anymore.
It's rare for me to give this advice out on a public forum but I would suggest praying about this and seeing what the good Lord will give you for advice, plans are plans and things are sometimes easier when he guides them.
Get a good atty and take every class DHS has to offer. Save every duragatory email and text from her. Also fight any urge to tell her anything (ie. I've got pictures of you with him, I'm fighting for full custody). Ask for everything and it will get negotiated down. If you start with 1/2 of everything you will get less than that. Take your guns and have a friend hold them (DHS is a Govt agency and will use these against you), delete Facebook and any other social networks. Being guys pics on those are usually us shooting or drinking and that makes you look unstable. Good Luck L.J.
Some Good advice so far...remember ...Be Calm, Be Cool , and be Quiet.....Until its time, your prepared.
Then let loose the Dogs of Divorce, Fight for the Kiddos ,sounds like they Need You.
Unfit Mother will give you the leverage you need, Dont leave them in a house with a drug addict.
This is for the Kiddos.
Married 6 times ...Divorced 2...that will give you something to think, if not laugh about.
I got custody of my Kiddos, she paid child spport.
Its not easy but its doable...and Ill 2nd the vote to Pray for the strength to do ..Whats Right.
Good Luck and Ill be Praying for Ya
Then let loose the Dogs of Divorce, Fight for the Kiddos ,sounds like they Need You.
Unfit Mother will give you the leverage you need, Dont leave them in a house with a drug addict.
This is for the Kiddos.
Married 6 times ...Divorced 2...that will give you something to think, if not laugh about.
I got custody of my Kiddos, she paid child spport.
Its not easy but its doable...and Ill 2nd the vote to Pray for the strength to do ..Whats Right.
Good Luck and Ill be Praying for Ya
