Love...

[sanjuro893]

I agree with most of the advice on here. As for your family, tell them to back off. It's when you try to hurry it that love eludes you. My wife and I got married later than what both our families thought. Do we wish we could have met when we were younger? Sure, but have either of us been happier? Nope. It seems to me that we both had things to learn before God put us together.

 

[RidgeHunter]

Same here. She was my best friend without ever having even a joke about the two of us dating. I was never interested or entertained the thought, she felt the same way.

:bsflagsmiley:

She was a woman, right? You find her attractive and enjoyed her company? She was on your ladder.

http://www.laddertheory.com/

I think the "stop looking" is bad advice. You have to ALWAYS be looking, or else you'll never find anything, and if something finds you...you'll shut it down (or not recognize it) if you've cleared the "looking" from your mind. Everyone that found their spouse while they were "not looking" was actually looking to some degree, whether they realize it or not. If they were truly not looking, they would have said "Get away from me woman, I'm not looking!" and still be single.

The key distinction is, don't start (or stop if you have started) DESPERATELY looking. That's a good way to wake up one morning and wonder why someone you hate is sitting in your kitchen eating the last of your favorite cereal. Learn to be content with your excess money, spare time and freedom until you find someone worth trading it for. With any luck they'll have money, so you'll only have to give up 2 of 3.

 

[tntrex]

Love is a fallacy.

 

[JB Books]

Just don't be chasing those Asian ladyboys like PurpleHaze....

 

[LightningCrash]

Poor guy will never live that picture down...

If I'd known my GIF would have been that popular I would have taken the time to make it perfect.

 

[bettingpython]

:bsflagsmiley:

She was a woman, right? You find her attractive and enjoyed her company? She was on your ladder.

http://www.laddertheory.com/

I think the "stop looking" is bad advice. You have to ALWAYS be looking, or else you'll never find anything, and if something finds you...you'll shut it down (or not recognize it) if you've cleared the "looking" from your mind. Everyone that found their spouse while they were "not looking" was actually looking to some degree, whether they realize it or not. If they were truly not looking, they would have said "Get away from me woman, I'm not looking!" and still be single.

The key distinction is, don't start (or stop if you have started) DESPERATELY looking. That's a good way to wake up one morning and wonder why someone you hate is sitting in your kitchen eating the last of your favorite cereal. Learn to be content with your excess money, spare time and freedom until you find someone worth trading it for. With any luck they'll have money, so you'll only have to give up 2 of 3.

Don't get me wrong when I say quit looking for love, that doesn't mean quit looking for women, I quit looking for miss right and resigned myself to just getting some whenever I could and not caring if they were relationship material.

 

[Parks 788]

Not giving advice as my marriages have not been perfect. Hell I have been married to the same woman.......TWICE! Things are great now, though.

But from my experiences watching more than several of my firends.

*Most churches that are of decent size and many different types of group to join and retreats to go on. If you are a God Loving Man see what type of things your church has to offer. One church I go to has a singles retreat (no, not to get laid type of retreat).

*Match.com or similar, seems to have had success with some people I know.

*Stay out of the bars and nightclubs to find a compatible person.

*IMO, and as others have said, you will find the right woman when you least expect it.

 

[Perplexed]

Don't get me wrong when I say quit looking for love, that doesn't mean quit looking for women, I quit looking for miss right and resigned myself to just getting some whenever I could and not caring if they were relationship material.

Are beer goggles an EDC item for you?

 

[PUMPKIN]

Says the newly wed.....what does your wife think J.??

Man i stayed single up until 30. i had a blast being single and miss it sometimes. but i kind of want a mini me in the next couple of years and i think it would be cool to have two parents instead of one like i had growing up. The worst part about the single life was sunday through thursday!!!