Watch the show intervention. All those people treat their friends & family like they are owed whatever help is given to them just b/c they exist. Something about that type of personality makes them extremely self centered as if the entire world revolves around them & someone is always supposed to be close by to provide or save their ass.
Watch the show intervention. All those people treat their friends & family like they are owed whatever help is given to them just b/c they exist. Something about that type of personality makes them extremely self centered as if the entire world revolves around them & someone is always supposed to be close by to provide or save their ass.
Because it is true. I have been through the same things as you are going through several times with family members either drinking or doing drugs. They have to hit bottom and usually do some jail time to get their heads on straight.
not sure he will due time considering all the states letting people out due to over crowding. Though he has court next week I think for the DUI he had about 6 months to a year ago. He didnt have $ then so had his attorney delay the actual court date. He doesnt have $ now so he may be taken in due to not being able to pay? Not sure.
time in jail or time sleeping under a bridge,the result is the same. if he isn't deminished enough mentally to not understand then he'll figure out he needs to change his life style. tryin to fix it for him only prolongs the pain for everyone
Wow what a thread. It's really disappointing that the brother has come to expect to be bailed out and doesn't even appreciate the sacrifices others have made on his behalf. My kids are still young so I haven't had to do much tough love yet but I do tend to live by this rule:
Don't make your child's life difficult by trying to make it easy.
Don't make your child's life difficult by trying to make it easy.
You Can help him. AA
Under No uncertain terms lay down the Law, No Drinking , 90 meetings in 90 days, get a Sponsor and follow theyre advice.
No money , No rides , he can walk to a job or find a bus.
If hes in construction, a Lot of people stay in Motels. There are No excuses. Period
He will find All the help he needs from AA , thats what They Do.
Remember its Not about morals , being a Bad person ,being lazy (maybe a little) he has an Addiction, an Illness that once diagnosed can be put in remission.
Tough Love , set him down and look him in the eyes and tell him The Rules (above) no BS , no excuses.
You can go to a couple meetings with him ,if you want to /have time.
Mom and S/Dad should contact AlAnon, you'll find them from the AA meetings.
Simple not Easy....
This is the best way to Help him . So set a time and Start helping , If you want .
. just my experience
Under No uncertain terms lay down the Law, No Drinking , 90 meetings in 90 days, get a Sponsor and follow theyre advice.
No money , No rides , he can walk to a job or find a bus.
If hes in construction, a Lot of people stay in Motels. There are No excuses. Period
He will find All the help he needs from AA , thats what They Do.
Remember its Not about morals , being a Bad person ,being lazy (maybe a little) he has an Addiction, an Illness that once diagnosed can be put in remission.
Tough Love , set him down and look him in the eyes and tell him The Rules (above) no BS , no excuses.
You can go to a couple meetings with him ,if you want to /have time.
Mom and S/Dad should contact AlAnon, you'll find them from the AA meetings.
Simple not Easy....
This is the best way to Help him . So set a time and Start helping , If you want .
. just my experience
Just be sure and cover up the camera lens first.
ya no kidding... don't want the scratch-master catching me in the act!
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