School bullying and threats - what would you do?

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tRidiot

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I think I'm going to file a police report today.

Long story short, my son was assaulted completely unprovoked by an older kid at school (private school). Karate chopped in the throat while just standing there. This was Friday, my wife complained to the principal, the kids were all interviewed by the principal yesterday, we are waiting to hear if this kid (8th grader) was suspended - in accordance with the school's "no tolerance policy on bullying and violence". I had a very firm discussion with the principal last year over bullying during which they tried to say my son should get used to it and toughen up because he is the smallest kid in the class - I was asked to leave the school when I vehemently pointed out the hypocrisy in that viewpoint.

In addition now another child, who is in my son's class (6th grade) who was previously suspended (last year, I believe) yesterday told kids in the lunchroom he was "going to tear out [a teacher's] heart and make him eat it", then told 2 girls sitting with my son (while he was harassing them) that he was going to "burn [them] alive with a flamethrower" and told my son he was "going to shoot [him] in the face with a rifle."

I'm done with this. Police report today on the kid making the threats - he has previously been to our home for play dates and has not been asked back in a while, as he became more abusive/belligerent. If the school hasn't suspended the karate-chopping 8th grader, I will probably be filing an assault complaint, as well.

Just curious how ya'll perceive this stuff? I personally think there is zero place for tolerance of this behavior in any school (much less a private Christian school), and I do not think the school is holding up their end of the bargain in maintaining a safe, disciplined learning environment. This isn't about a snowflake wanting to use the restroom of their choice, or pulling soda out of the vending machines. This is real physical attacks and threats of shooting other kids. Not on the playground when playing cops & robbers, but during a bullying event in the lunchroom.

Totally unacceptable, IMNSHO.
 

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I think you are getting what you paid for. Seriously, it is private school why do you still have your kid in an environment that you believe is dangerous?
 
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I was bullied in school and they did nothing,If i kicked the bulley's ass it was my fault.. usually i kicked a star ball players ass .. sports rule i suppose.
I hate the system.
It is broke beyond repair.. so call the cops and if that does not work call news channel 4.

I would get names.
Say the principal said he will get tough,, hmmm I have done this.

Wright he will get tough on paper and have the principal sigh it.. Yea documentation.. or record it all on your phone. then take it to the head of the school board.

As a child I had teachers fired ..That is correct.. teachers preying on young children.. I snatched up the teacher and we went to the principal.
Sometimes it works.
 

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Yes, I am now working stepwise up the ladder. I have lost faith in the school that they will do anything, but even if both these boys are suspended or expelled, the one who has made the firearms threats is having a police complaint filed today. I just finished up the rough draft, waiting on the wife to get up so I can get his and his parents' full names and contact info.
 

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The school is missing out on the beauty of a private school. They should have been gone long ago, after it was first confirmed. Surely they signed a contract, yes?
Go after it full steam ahead and file it. My kids school have sent kids packing for way less. Everyone there pays tuition, pretty much your're there and behave or you're gone.
 
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You are doing the right thing, get ahead of it, stay ahead of it, make sure your kid is OK.

We dealt with it for a long time, finally ended when my son took down a bully that jumped him. Unfortunately my son got suspended as well. He wouldn't let us go to the school about the issues, so there was no history. Keep building the history....
 

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Definitely, file reports and follow up. This kind of behavior should not be tolerated anywhere, private school or not. If it isn't stopped now, this kid is gonna' continue to escalate until somebody REALLY gets hurt (or worse)! You have got to take threats seriously. Go after 'em with all you've got.
 

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You have handled this well and to point, better than the school.

To this you have documented the issue and you are doing the right thing to involve the police. At some point the school will have to realize the revenue from the bully's parents is not worth the legal aggravation they will face now that you have put this on record. Should something now happen (and we pray it does not), the school is on the literal hook for knowing but not initiating measure to stop it.

Kids can be assholes at any age and at any school. What the school needs to do is the right thing and put an end to it before some dipstick kid tries to take the limbo bar down another notch to see how low he can go because he is not getting the attention he thinks that he deserves.
 

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