I don't see dragging the police into the situation as a means to an end, but I would let the principal know that if something wasn't done to remedy the situation and punish the little snot that you next course if action will be getting the authorities involved. No cbild should have to fear other kids in school and no parent should have to worry that their children are in harms way while being there. The school needs to treat every student fairly and equally. If the principal doesn't want to take appropriate corrective action, get the authorities involved.
I got bullied a lot in school. I grew up in a minority-majority area (80% african, 10% hispanic, 10% white.) It was really ghetto as hell.
My parents tried to protect me by homeschooling me in the end, but it ****ed me up a bit. Once I started fighting back, I kept getting in trouble. But they stopped ****ing with me.
With cowards, it's all about finding the easy target. Your kid being smaller, he's just a bigger target. If the school refuses to do anything, file necessary complaints.
I don't know about Oklahoma, but in Florida all private schools had to be authorized by the state and you could complain to the board of education about that sort of stuff. The school could lose its licensing or face huge fines.
My parents tried to protect me by homeschooling me in the end, but it ****ed me up a bit. Once I started fighting back, I kept getting in trouble. But they stopped ****ing with me.
With cowards, it's all about finding the easy target. Your kid being smaller, he's just a bigger target. If the school refuses to do anything, file necessary complaints.
I don't know about Oklahoma, but in Florida all private schools had to be authorized by the state and you could complain to the board of education about that sort of stuff. The school could lose its licensing or face huge fines.
Sorry to hear that your son and family has had to go through this. Sounds like you did the best thing given the options. My concern at this point is whether or not the boy who threatened to kill people still has access to firearms. What steps are being taken by the police and the school to insure that students and staff are safe? If the steps seem inadequate it might be time to go public and bring community pressure to bear. I hope that other parents are with you in this. Building a parent group might be a good next step before going totally public. The group focus might be overall school safety in which you use the threat as an immediate example. A group voice is hard to write off.
Years ago, my boys were in a Scout troop that had a troubled kid for a while. This boy, at 12 or 13 seemed unusually dangerous to me and other dads. I can't even recall or describe what it was about this kid that alarmed us like it did. The scoutmasters made him leave after all helpful attempts failed. As I understand it, this young man is now grown and incarcerated somewhere. But at that early age, we could all see the danger in him and it was pretty frightening. In this young man's case, his problems exceeded what parents and involved adults could help.
I'm glad that it seems to have worked out as well as possible, tRidiot. You've got a good teaching opportunity with your youngster.
I'm glad that it seems to have worked out as well as possible, tRidiot. You've got a good teaching opportunity with your youngster.
We did this twice with my Son. First parent acknowledged the issue, and took care of it. Second parent said the kid was out of control, and they couldn't do anything with him, that one shocked us...
second scenario probably happens way more than we think.
Glad to hear it worked out with the first kid.
Yes we are looking into talking to other parents about this school's bullying problem that we do not feel is being properly addressed.
As for the boy who made the threats, he has been expelled and will not be returning. Both the police and the administration have said they cannot provide us with any other information as to what is happening. Although the officer did say that a report will be filed and it will be turned over to the OJA (Office of Juvenile Affairs). He said they will do their own investigation which should be independent of DHS.
In other words, we will never know... if this kid is still a threat to show up at our child's school, which has no security.
As for the boy who made the threats, he has been expelled and will not be returning. Both the police and the administration have said they cannot provide us with any other information as to what is happening. Although the officer did say that a report will be filed and it will be turned over to the OJA (Office of Juvenile Affairs). He said they will do their own investigation which should be independent of DHS.
In other words, we will never know... if this kid is still a threat to show up at our child's school, which has no security.
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Does the principal report to a board? Given you have documented this and have the police involved and there is still no remedy from the school’s principal; this is something they need to know.
Reason why is as I mentioned earlier, by going to the police you started the paper trail. Should something happen now that school faces a huge law suit which will cost them big time. The school and that principal have a fiduciary obligation to protect the kiddies in their care.
My two cents, you are doing everything right. From notifying the school and when that failed going to the police. Going to the parents as you mentioned is taking right from the book of Matthew and going to the source.
Reason why is as I mentioned earlier, by going to the police you started the paper trail. Should something happen now that school faces a huge law suit which will cost them big time. The school and that principal have a fiduciary obligation to protect the kiddies in their care.
My two cents, you are doing everything right. From notifying the school and when that failed going to the police. Going to the parents as you mentioned is taking right from the book of Matthew and going to the source.
I have some friends with a child enrolled in Oklahoma Virtual Charter Academy. It looks like it takes a hybrid approach for those who want the structure of school but don't want to or can't afford to be in public or private schools.
I hope that your son is ok and that this crap stops. I think you are handling it about as good as you can. I know just pulling him out of the school probably isn't the easiest thing to do but if nothing changes it may be the best thing. I know if I was paying money for my son to go to private school and this crap happened he would be out of the school. Public school isn't as bad as some say. Depending on what school and what district it's in. Here in Shawnee we have a school out in the country called south rock creek that is public yet is a very good school. And it's very tough. Even more so then when I went there years and years ago. And I know they don't put up with this crap. Most parents know each other and many of the kids know each other very well. It was the main thing I loved about it, the family feel. I definitely would let give up on it no matter how much they try and blow you off. I'm sure you telling them you are gonna pull your son out will do something because they don't want to lose that income that he generates. Good luck with this. I'll be praying for y'all.
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