Question about revenge for the Christians.

[sanjuro893]

I come from a long line of grudge-holding people who don't put up with B.S. very well. Not to mention my bloodline is FULL of clannish peoples who believe in blood for blood, vendettas, etc. I'm a Christian and I'm VERY familiar with Romans 12:19 and what the Bible says about vengeance....... but recently, there are certain people in my life that have either embarrassed or insulted me WAY past my tolerance level. My hands were tied in these separate situations or I would've called them on it right then and there. Once they SAW that my hands were tied, they just kept pushing and PUSHING and PUSHING! None have apologized for what they've done even though I expressed to them AT THE TIME that they were taking it WAY too far. I understand that they'll have to answer for what they've done according to the Bible, but I just can't seem to let it go or just say "screw it", call them out on the carpet and let them know in no uncertain terms to NEVER cross me or take advantage of me again. Now understand that I'm a grown man, almost 40, I've been in plenty of situations like this where they got resolved one way or the other. I'm not an angsty teenager and I don't walk around with a chip on my shoulder or anything. I've got nothing to prove to anybody. I just can't get crapped all over like that by these people and let it go. I've lost a lot of respect for these people, I don't even think much of one of them to begin with and yet STILL can't just let it go. So what's the answer?

Just wanted to get the community's take on it. Sorry about the long rant.

 

[milsurp2.0]

Sorry, too vague to make a call and you really shouldn't take anyone's advice but your own heart. Especially a message board!

 

[Glocktogo]

Just keep in mind that holding that grudge harms you more than it harms them. I know more than a few people who'd cut their own nose off to spite their face. I've taken a bit more eastern philosophy about things like this. I can walk away from them. They have to live with their sorry, miserable selves every day for the rest of their pathetic lives. That's a form of punishment in and of itself. Probably more than I'd ever do to them. I also believe in karma. Someday, somewhere, somehow, their misdeeds will come back to them in full.

In short, I don't forgive and I don't forget. I just write them off as a total loss and move on with my life. Their salvation or condemnation can come from somewhere else. I'll not grant them one more second of my life.

 

[alank2]

Hi,

My advice is that you are aren't required in some way to deal with these people that you simply don't. If they question it, explain that a relationship with you is one where you require respect. Not sure if that is an option or not, but there are some people that are just toxic and not worth dealing with.

Good luck,

Alan

 

[Lurker66]

Dont hide behind being a Christian, even Jesus got pissed and flipped a few tables.

I dont pull punches with my family or very close friends. Like GlocktoGo said, i dont forgive and i dont forget. Besides if they dont know who they're messin with, you've been tolerant too long.

 

[TerryMiller]

Oh, what the heck......

Go biblical on them and grab the jawbone of an ass.

Failing to go with that option, turn the other cheek once and then walk away. When they push.....ignore.

 

[JB Books]

One of my favorite hobbies.

Since we are sharing, what kind of revenge are you contemplating?

 

[sanjuro893]

I know I've lost sleep over it and put WAY more thought into it than I should. Just eating away at my brain. Good advice from all. I appreciate it.

 

[Rumur]

 

[mugsy]

Sanjuro,

Have you tried prayer for your own peace of mind and for the strength to bear your cross - which this type treatment may be to you? Now, if you need to justly right a wrong - correct false information, etc. then do so for being a Christian doesn't require you to alow lies to be spread about you.
But if the only motivation left is to "get them" for insulting or slighting you in the past, then I would suggest you seek the strength to move on. Admittedly, this takes an act of faith and faith is a product of will and intellect not "feeling" - i.e. you don't have to like it but, if you can, for the right reasons, will yourself to do the right thing then that is a great act of faith.