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Perrone

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:blush: You youngsters ... us old folks just sigh and say to ourselves "it'll pass" ... and it does ... takes way too much energy to hold a grudge at our ages ... :o

In all seriousness though a couple of things stand out ...

One, if they BOTH don't want it to work then no amount of effort on his part is gonna fix anything and

Two, marriage is not an even-steven deal ... One party is always having to put more effort in that the other. That is just the way it is. In a good marriage that is a fluid equation, but what is "good" is also very subjective.

In the end, people are a pain in the ass to live with (whether men or women). You find someone who can tolerate and live with your level of pychosis and hope that you can find a way to deal with their personal demons. Then you count your blessings and just move on ...

ETA: The single most important sentence in the entire world is a heartfelt "I'm sorry".

I'm sorry only means so much when it's said every other sentence...again not trying to make excuses. Just helping you guys better understand.

So far everyones advice has been helpful...even the joking advice..

How about a midget and bottle of tequila?

Know any good looking midgets?
 

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I'm sorry only means so much when it's said every other sentence...again not trying to make excuses. Just helping you guys better understand.

So far everyones advice has been helpful...even the joking advice..



Know any good looking midgets?

Oh, I know ... Honestly, I feel for you. It is really easy to give advice, but when you are in the thick of it well, that's a horse of a different color.

I really do hope things work out for you guys.
 

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And baby makes three....

Happens to every couple, some more than others. Age, family support, money, etc.. all make differences once the kid years start. Nip it in the bud before it's too late.

You NEED time together without your kid(s). Tough if you don't have free and safe family/ friend care. Find a way to make it happen on a regular basis.

"Mom & Dad's alone time" need not be that expensive. Check the OKC Gazette for local events/ activities. Google "St Francis Of The Woods retreat" in Logan Co. You can stay for a donation, and it's an incredibly quiet and peaceful place to spent time together.

As for the lovin' thing, take it easy. Healthy women are too damn complicated and so are their libidos. Work on the relationship and the situation may improve, which beats not working on it and drifting down the path toward a sexless, platonic relationship.

Last bit of useless advice- See a marriage councelor. Interview one or more before committing to their advice. Not all are worth the ink on whatever certificates hang on their walls. Helps a bunch it if everyone is on the same sheet of music- Faith, background, ethnicity, whatever. You and wife should feel comfortable and understood.

Best of luck!
 

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BB, I challenge you to watch Telemundo or Univision for 30 min during prime time. During that time you will either see a show with a midget or a commercial for a show with a midget.

:rotflmao: I watched midget wrestling a while back ... :ooh2: Them little fellers are TOUGH!! LOL

There was a community of little people who lived in Marlow back when I was a kid. Don't know if they are still there or not. Some of them brought their pets into see my dad on occasion. Like every group of people they had "good" ones and "bad" ones ... :respect:
 

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