Boring Marriage - Looking for suggestions

[TheSanDiegoKid]

Would be nice, but she doesn't really seem into the "nap" thing anymore if you get my drift. Maybe I'm doing something wrong.

Wait a minute... Are we married to the same woman?? Lol

We used to go at it like rabbits. Had 2 kids and it's gone from every/ almost every night to... Every other month? Sometimes twice a year... We're both 25 married for 5 years in feb. BB, better send that pm my way too.

 

[bulbboy]

Find a hobby you can do together.

 

[BadgeBunny]

I'd like a PM too please.

Oh heaven's ... I have created a monster ...

OK, here is the family-friendly version of what me and GC do when one of us has out panties bunched up and is being difficult ...

BE NICE ... yeah, that is all there is to it ... be nice, don't take the bait and wait it out ... Then when the "ice" is out of their eyes (you know "the look" LOL) move slowly ... very, very slowly ... lest it be too soon and you wind up without an arm (or a leg) ...

Like GC says "it's a process"

Eventually all will be right with the world again ...

 

[vvvvvvv]

Find a hobby you can do together.

This.

We both played World of Warcraft for quite a few years sharing a desk. We got kinda burned out in Northrend, though.

 

[Perrone]

Wait a minute... Are we married to the same woman?? Lol

We used to go at it like rabbits. Had 2 kids and it's gone from every/ almost every night to... Every other month? Sometimes twice a year... We're both 25 married for 5 years in feb. BB, better send that pm my way too.

Sound familiar. We do more than twice a month but still nothing even remotely like we used too. I know it's not all about that, but we've lost pretty much the whole connection and happiness.

Find a hobby you can do together.

Tried that, so far nothing is good enough.

 

[Istandalone]

I'd say take the family on a walk in a nice park. Let the kiddo explore and discover things. Look at the world through your child's eyes.

We like to explore in the Wichita Mtns, but usually camp overnight. Red Rock canyon is nice.

 

[Perplexed]

Sound familiar. We do more than twice a month but still nothing even remotely like we used too. I know it's not all about that, but we've lost pretty much the whole connection and happiness.

I had to look at your posted age, since this comment is something I'd expect from someone older who's been married for decades. It sounds as if you and your wife might benefit more from marriage counseling than a simple "break in the routine"?

 

[338Shooter]

Hmm, you've gotten comfortable. You're not at the point where your pursuing her anymore. You've caught her and won the race! You still should be studying her like you did when you were dating. Do things for her, stuff she wouldn't expect. You need to remember what it was like when you spent all of your time trying to get into her pants. Do that again. If she likes you to buy her things do it. If she likes for you do do things for her do it.

I learned a fantastic trick. When they are in the bath/shower take a towel and warm it up in the dryer and then wait until she's getting out and grab it real quick. Go wrap her up in it.

Doing what you asked about in the first post may help, but you have to put the spice back in the same way you put it in in the beginning.

2nd the counseling. Start talking to each other. Ask her if there is anything missing in her life. See if there is something she would like to do, but is too afraid to try or to ask you if she can try it. It could be a number of things. Sounds like you guys aren't communicating effectively. You may talk about things, but that doesn't mean you are communicating.

 

[BadgeBunny]

Hmm, you've gotten comfortable. You're not at the point where your pursuing her anymore. You've caught her and won the race! You still should be studying her like you did when you were dating. Do things for her, stuff she wouldn't expect. You need to remember what it was like when you spent all of your time trying to get into her pants. Do that again. If she likes you to buy her things do it. If she likes for you do do things for her do it.

I learned a fantastic trick. When they are in the bath/shower take a towel and warm it up in the dryer and then wait until she's getting out and grab it real quick. Go wrap her up in it.

Doing what you asked about in the first post may help, but you have to put the spice back in the same way you put it in in the beginning.

You, young man, are wise beyond your years. Your wife is a very lucky woman ...

 

[Rajder]

Wait a minute... Are we married to the same woman?? Lol

We used to go at it like rabbits. Had 2 kids and it's gone from every/ almost every night to... Every other month? Sometimes twice a year... We're both 25 married for 5 years in feb. BB, better send that pm my way too.

Holy cow, we are all married to the same women!

Man the kids really do throw a cramp in things don't they. I swear that little ones have a sixth sense that can tell when daddy wants some "nap time". My little one is so good at it that I'm convinced at this point that he is just doing it to mess with me for his own entertainment.
When my friends ask me about kids I always tell them this:
"You know that your are ready for kids when your have done everything in life that you want to do for yourself and when you are bored of sex. Only then are you ready for kids."

As far as being bored. With two young ones being bored isn't something that I can even fathom. You don't know what we would give to just be bored with nothing to do around the house. So I have no advice, in fact I'm envious.