Boring Marriage - Looking for suggestions

[jfssms]

JB Books will grease you guys up and chase you around the house in a Henry the VIII costume for a reasonable hourly rate.

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Do you know what he charges...I might be interested!

 

[Perrone]

Maybe it's the way you're asking her, sometimes it's all in how you approach a situation & when. How have you been asking? Don't forget that men and women can get to different things out of the same sentence. I never realized how different it was until I read this book. For example if I told Tcox I had nothing to wear he would automatically think nothing is clean but what I mean is I just can't pick out something.

I ask her everything from where do you want to eat, what do you want for dinner, what do you want to do this weekend...always "whatever you want".

 

[Istandalone]

Marriage Counseling. I hear boredom and depression. Happens quite frequently; esp with little ones around. Be patient and try to listen and understand, bring her a flower with no expectations in return.

 

[okgirl]

I ask her everything from where do you want to eat, what do you want for dinner, what do you want to do this weekend...always "whatever you want".

I was meaning more towards have you told her how you feel about the situation and if she feels the same. Doing something different for a weekend can only help for a short amount of time, eventually it's going to go back to how it is now. Knowing what the problem is and working to fix can completely change it.

 

[grizzly97]

I have run into that problem in a few relationships. What i have discovered is when i quit asking and just saying "we are going to...." they usually went along with it (about 80% of the time). The rest of the time they said "well can we.....instead?", so i would just say "yeah, sounds good honey." Seems like a lot of women want the man to take charge or at least act like they are. I'm not saying to be a pushy b!#@$&d, just to make a decision. Hope it helps my man!!! Marriage is the toughest but most rewarding venture!

 

[crg1372]

Are there any decent places you guys know of that we could go have a nice picnic or something while this beautiful weather is still around?

Blue River WMA. I promise you won't regret it.

 

[Perrone]

I have run into that problem in a few relationships. What i have discovered is when i quit asking and just saying "we are going to...." they usually went along with it (about 80% of the time). The rest of the time they said "well can we.....instead?", so i would just say "yeah, sounds good honey." Seems like a lot of women want the man to take charge or at least act like they are. I'm not saying to be a pushy b!#@$&d, just to make a decision. Hope it helps my man!!! Marriage is the toughest but most rewarding venture!

I'll give that a try. Thanks everyone. So far you've given me tons of ideas.

 

[crg1372]

Just in case you need any conving about Blue River, heres a few pics....

 

[BadgeBunny]

Marriage Counseling. I hear boredom and depression. Happens quite frequently; esp with little ones around. Be patient and try to listen and understand, bring her a flower with no expectations in return.

THAT is key (and the hard part) for a lot of people, both women and men.

 

[BadgeBunny]

I have run into that problem in a few relationships. What i have discovered is when i quit asking and just saying "we are going to...." they usually went along with it (about 80% of the time). The rest of the time they said "well can we.....instead?", so i would just say "yeah, sounds good honey." Seems like a lot of women want the man to take charge or at least act like they are. I'm not saying to be a pushy b!#@$&d, just to make a decision. Hope it helps my man!!! Marriage is the toughest but most rewarding venture!

LOL ... I dated this guy for a while who would always ask me "Do you want to do a or b??" So I would pick one and off we would go. Then I realized that we were ALWAYS doing what he wanted to do ... seriously ... LOL

So ... the next time he asked me I said "I wanna do c". OMG he was AGHAST ... He never asked me if I wanted to do a or b again. In fact, he never called again. Good thing I was just killing time and not attached to him!! LOL I might have got my feelers hurt!! haha!